Having trouble penetrating the hymen. Any tips?

Question

Me and my partner have tried twice now to penetrate her hymen, but she has problems with tensing up when i get about an inch in, which makes it about impossible. She's admitted to being nervous but very eager, which cause some confliction as is obvious or i wouldn't be asking this right now :P

Any suggestions? Tips? Past experiences to share? I've been told to use KY jelly but we're using condoms and that's a nono for KY jelly. We've also tried a bit of alcohol to loosen up the tension.

Thanks in advance for any answers ^_^ I'm sure my partner will be very pleased as well.

Answer 1

Isn't KY water based.  You can use a water based lube with condoms.  To be perfectly honest with you though, why doesn't your girlfriend get started on birth control pills and then you can make your first time extra special without an annoying plasticky condom...I hate those things.  It will be way worth it.  Remember that she knows her first time will hurt, so it's probably tough to relax and loosen up.

Answer 2

use vaseline and ram it in her without a condom! feels better anyway!

Answer 3

Try using a french tickler

Answer 4

get a vibrator and use it on her. maybe it will help her loosen up!