Having two April babies...?

Question

I have a daughter who's birthday is in April. Well my husband and I are trying for a second child. 8 months into trying. Anyway... I'm not sure we should try this month. If we got pregnant this cycle, we'd have another April baby. I'm not sure this would be fair to either child at the chance I got pregnant this month. We'd have only one party for the children because of out of town guests. What would you do? Take the month off of trying? Still try anyway. Will children hate having their birthday parties together? Thanks a bunch! I'm so torn!

Answer 1

Seriously.  It's not a big deal to have two birthdays in the same month.  My first two are in different months, but only four weeks apart.

I think it would be rude to expect out of town guests to travel twice for parties regardless of timing.  

You can make each childs birthday individual and still have one large family party.

We do something special for each child and then have one large party.

Answer 2

The birth-dates of your children really are not of that great importance.  My aunt was born on my dad's birthday.  Of course, they were born in a time when birthdays were not the big to-do's that they are now, but it has made them close as siblings.  My dad is now 71 and my aunt is 66.  On their birthday, they still try to be the first to call each other on their birthday.  My dad has 5 siblings.  Each of the 6 shares a birthday month with another - there are 2 in October, 2 in November and 2 in December.  I know another family who has 3 children who were all born in the same month, just a few days apart and I know another family with 2 kids who have birthdays one day apart.  As young children, they don't really have a clear concept of "their" birthday and as they get older you'll be able to celebrate each birthday in a way that is unique to them as they begin to want parties with friends.  A joint celebration for out of town guests is perfectly fine and neither child will likely care.  Since you are already 8 months into TTC I wouldn't skip a month simply to avoid having children share a birthday month.  It's good to share.

Answer 3

Well, I dont know if I'd skip a month of trying just because it would be another April baby. I mean what if this would be the month you get pregnant and you missed it! 2 of my kids are born in the same month and within the same week. They so far havent complained about only having one party, but I sometimes feel it isnt fair to them. I understand your concern with that. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

It's up to you, and it depends a lot on what you daughter is like. My sister and are are born in consecutive months, and we've always had our family birthday parties together. I like it personally, but I don't know if someone else might resent it.

Answer 5

I don't think I would take the month off.

My sister and I have different birth months, but our birthdays are only 12 days apart (with a 3 year age differnce). Neither of us ever cared that our birthdays were close. They are also in spring, so one of us usually shared our birthday celebration with easter.

Answer 6

I have twins. I'm stuck with that situation either way. Anyway, when I grew up, my grandmother's birthday was the same day as mine. My sister's was a few days before, and my great-uncle's was around the same time. We always enjoyed it, it was like a pre-thanksgiving festival! I never felt like my sister stole my thunder (her birthday was first in the month) and I believe she never felt like I stole hers. No biggie.

Answer 7

If it was me I would wait.

The two kids will most likley want to have separate parties/birthdays, and you will be able to afford more for them that way.

Answer 8

i personally don;t think that is a good enough reason to stop trying, just remember that your children will get used to 'sharing' a birthday, I'm not sure how old your daughter is but if she is young she may never remember it any other way. i would also assume once they get a great deal older they will want their friends rather than family as the main birthday guests at that time i would consider separating their parties, you could still do a combined family thing but a 12 year old is less likely to care if 'great aunt Mildred' is at her party

Answer 9

This happened to a friend of mine... Her first child was born in July.. Then a few years later she had twins born on the same day as her oldest.. So I'd wait a month or two..

Answer 10

i am in that situation now. I just got pregnant this month which means if my baby comes on her due date, she will be with 15 days of her sister (same month) because my daughter was born march 29th and my due date is march 14 lol. i wish i could have gotten pregnant another month, but i could always end up having a february baby! lol

Answer 11

The kids totally won't care. My brother has two kids with birthdays just two weeks apart, both around Christmas no less, and they don't mind at all when their birthdays are celebrated together, or at a combination New Year's party. They are currently five years old and three years old, and they have never complained at all (and they complain about all kinds of things ;-)

Answer 12

My 5th son was induced 7 weeks early for medical reasons and it made his birthday 4 days befor our 4th son's.  We scheduled their parties at the same place but there were 2 celebrations.  One's table was decorated in his theme and the other son's was decorated in his theme.  We took turns singing happy birthday to one, then the other,  Same way with the cake and presents.  They each had their own party, just together!  My current baby is due 3 days before another son and we'll do things the same way.  Point being, it's doable and is not unfair to the child if they get their own attention on their day!

Answer 13

I do not think it is a big deal to have to B-days in the same month. Go for it now don't wait!

Answer 14

My boyfriend's mother has 5 children.  One has a birthday in March and a couple days before his dad's.  Another has a June birthday right around Father's Day.  Another has a July birthday.  And the last two have August birthdays.

It's really not a problem having one party for two kids.  They can invite their own friends and each have their own cake.  :-)

Answer 15

My brother and I have birthdays in the same month. When I was younger, I would get slightly jealous because his came first but my mom never did parties together and I was older so it taught me how to be a "big girl" and wait.

Answer 16

I would take a break for awhile. I mean a month or 2 won't change things too much. It would be unfair to both children.