He's back!?

Question

ok well, i was with this guy from 8th grade til 10th grade and kept talkin after that (and thru those times he got in to ALOT of trouble, from being expelled from school for gun possession to being in jail for punching a cop in the face, his b-day is the day after mine and we had so much in common. BUT when he got out of jail the last time i had already met someone else and told him i wasn't gonna wait for him i wanted to start a family and settle down, well im pregnant now and i seen him for the first time in about 10 months yesterday and he said your having my baby? (jokingly of corse) BUT THEN HE TOLD MY MAN IT WAS HIS BABY AND MY MAN DONT KNOW HE WAS LOCKED UP ALL THE TIME, what should i do, i kno its not no one elses i just want my man to kno too,

any help is appreciated!

my man is very jealous especially over this guy because he was my 1st love and once i got mad and he asked if we were ever to break up would i get back with this guy and out of spite i said yes,

i am so stupid

Answer 1

can you prove when the other guy was in prison? that should be enough i'm sure

Answer 2

So one random guy tells your boyfriend that he's the father and he immediately believes the complete stranger?  Sounds like there are some serious trust issues here.  You never said that you actually told your boyfriend that this guy had been in jail for quite awhile.  I would inform him of that.  Unless you've done things to make him doubt you, he should believe what you say.  Otherwise, find a way to prove that he's been in jail.  Good luck.

By the way, I hope you realize that you should completely stay away from your ex-boyfriend.  Gun posession and assaulting an officer?!  I'd get a restraining order from a guy like that if he tried to be in my life again.

Answer 3

i agree with the restraining order, especially if you are having a baby.

sounds like the guy is a bad influence asnd you wouldnt wasnt him around.

i understand saying something like that out of spite, we're women, we tend to do that.

BUT,

try and talk to your guy, let him know that hes the only one.

try doing something special, or having a REALLY HONEST conversation.

sit him down, look him in the eye and tell him the truth about everything.

if he cant be mature and trust you, he obviously has some jealousy/ trust issues that he needs to work through.

Answer 4

tell him the truth. he is a jail bird and you have no romantic interest in him.

why are you dating a jelious guy anyways? it seems you like the same type of man. insecure.

and you ex is a *** for saying that in the first place. you should cut all ties with him. he has been nothing but trouble and will continue to be trouble. dont let him mess up your family because that is what he is doing.

tell your boyfriend that you love him and you ex will nolonger be in the picture. the lie about the baby was the last straw.

good luck.