He's become a terror!!

Question

My son is almost 1 year old, and he has become a terror! Besides when he's in his crib, he never lets me leave the room for even a second. He screams like someone's killin his dog! It takes a long time to calm him down afterwards. He also has temper tantrums like you wouldn't believe, just for telling him No! If I slap his hand, he bites or hits me back! How can I get him to be okay with me leaving the room for 2 minutes? And how do you punish a 1 year old? Thanks for any help!

Answer 1

Right now the best way for him to learn no is for you to take him away from whatever it is that he is not supposed to be doing.  If her bites, put him in the crib and close the door.  When he is done screaming, go get him and give him a hug.  Do the same thing with the temper tantrums.  Not letting you leave the room is a tricky one.  Try some time everyday set aside for just the two of you.  Also try talking to him as you walk around the house.  Even if you are telling him what you are doing.  When he starts to pitch his fit, tell him to come on.  I assume that he is at least crawling by now.  It may be rough for a few weeks but he will get the idea.  You may want to invest in ear plugs.  But if you do it every time and are consistent in your actions he will quickly get the idea.  

The most important thing is that you remain calm, no matter how crazy it gets.  If you get upset, then he wins.

Answer 2

You ignore his behaviors. If you need to leave the room leave and let him scream. If he bites your hand stick him in the corner and don't let him move out of it. And don't physically punish your child. It just makes them aggressive later in life

Answer 3

As for the tantrums walk away...just tell him, when you are finished you may join us doing what ever it is YOU want him to do, and walk away. As for the biting...I don't know, mine is almost 18 months and she still bites. She knows she's wrong, but out of frustration wants to chomp down. And I've tried everything. time outs are funny, pops on the f***y, make her cry but don't stop her from doing it again and even biting back didn't work. She fights hard but she loves harder. Its funny, at daycare they call her the greeter because she always smiles and says hi, shes the first to offer a hug to other children and parents...but she's also quick to chomp into a kid too...lol, therefore also known as the biter. Or as I lovingly call her, "the little phirana".

Answer 4

Time out works for my 20 month old...but other than that nothing much.  Just distract them to something else.  I am going through the same thing with her.  So you aren't alone...

Answer 5

give him a SPANKING!

Answer 6

Repetition is key. I used to smakc my son's hand too but I quickly learned that by doing that, he then thought it was okay to hit me. So I stopped. If he starts crying when you walk away, just go do what you need to do and come back. Don't turn around and put off what you were going to do because he his fussing. He know if he cries you'll come back. I'm big on kids learning how to "self soothe." He needs to see that you will come back and that he can keep himself calm when you do leave. Also, timeouts worked well for my son. Per my pediatrician, one minute for every year old they are is good. So a 1 minute time out for him will be enough. Before I would get my son out of time out I would go in his room and stand in front of him and say "You got a timeout because...next time use your words (say whatever you want" Reminding them why they are in timeout and what they can do next time was tremendously helpful. He may not be able to talk, but he understands more than you think.

It will take time, just be patient!

Answer 7

Sounds like separation anxiety to me. It's a developmental milestone. He has just realized that you can actually LEAVE him and that he is separate from you. It makes him a little scared, but he'll get used to it.

My son who is now 17 months old, had a bad case of it around his first birthday. On his birthday, I actually had to hold him and carry him most of the day because he cried every time I left him. This was unusual because he was usually quite Mr Independent since he had started walking a few weeks before.

It'll get better over time, but regarding the disciplining: Just be consistent. Don't be firm one day and then back down the next. You'll figure out what works for his temperament. Smacking his hand only teaches him that smacking is an acceptable way of reacting to anger.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I bet you he is really not a terror! He is probably the best thing that ever happened to you! :)

First of all relax, this is just what it is like to have an active one year old BOY who is going through separation anxiety. It can be frustrating, but if you sit behind him when you set him down and drive cars or play with a toy with him for about two to five minutes you can back slowly away and he will probably keep on playing after some training! (Don't slap him or get worried, just play with him down on his level. ) This is the best way to teach good behavior and manners. And when you get up to do some household chores he will probably be laughing and playing with his toys!! Enjoy him, he'll only be little for a bit more!