He asked me out, PLZ help.......I'M PRACTICALLY CRYING!?

Question

So my friend had a bunch of classes with this guy and started liking him about a year ago. And now i have a bunch of classes with him and I started liking him about a month ago.........

HERE's THE PROBLEM!.

He asked me out the other day and i (not thinking) said yes, but then i said no and then i explained that i can't just go out with you because my friend has liked him longer. Then he said, "well do you like me or

not?" and i said yes, but...then he kissed me and asked if we could go out in secret, me (not thinking again) said yes. and now i REALLY like him but i feel so bad about going out with him behind her back.

WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DONE?

WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW?

please help im so confused.

Answer 1

you should go out with him.  your friend can't claim a guy if she's not dating him.  i've liked carrie underwood since her first american idol performance, but tony romo still got to go out with her before i did.  you don't need to go out with him in secret either, tell your friend what happend.  explain to her that more than one person can be attracted to another person at the same time.  he obviously isn't very interested in her, but he is interested in you.  you could tell that to your friend as well (hopefully not that bluntly though).  h**l this guy could potentially be Mr. Right. do you really want to say no just because your friend thought he was cute first?

Answer 2

If he decided to ask you out and not your friend, then he obviously likes you.  Go out with him.  It's not like you asked him out, he wants to go out with you and not your friend.  Or, ask your friend for her opinion if you feel like she will be hurt.  Explain the situation, and most likely she will be ok with it.  Hope I helped,  good luck.  :)  

Answer 3

Tell your friend the whole story. And she's liked him for a year - obviously nothing is gonna happen between them! She doesn't own him, so why should you suffer if he likes you?

Answer 4

your frd could be hurt by the situation -- rejection in any form is not pleasant.. you can help lesson her pain . you should ask her how she would feel in this situation, explain to her that her frdship is more important then a guy (if that's how u feel) and that if she doesn't feel comfortable with u going out with him, you'll reject him. but tell her you now know what she likes this guy, bc as you're having more classes with him, u've begun to like him a whole lot. tell her that u really was happy when he asked u out, but tell her that you've thot of her so you are hesitating.

let her know that you respect and cherish her. if she's understanding, she'd let you go. if she is really upset by it, then u have to measure what's more important, that guy or ur frd.

follow ur heart and think through what YOU want.

(don't reveal too much of how the guy asked u out, kissed you and so on)

Answer 5

It's not your fault if he doesn't like her. She never made her move.  Why should you two be penalized for liking each other? I'd just tell her.

Answer 6

For one thing,... grow up. It's not that big of a deal. Trust me, more important things will arise in your life. Here's the simple facts: Your friend has liked this guy for a year and hasn't made a move. You've liked this guy for a month and now he's interested. You snooze, you loose. She had plenty of time to start something with this guy but failed to. It's your time now, so go out with him. Don't let it be a secret, but do be the one that lets her know first off as a courtesy. Just be grown up about it and say, "I know you like him, but it's been a long time and you haven't done anything to start a relationship, and he's asked me out. So we're going out (insert desired details)." She'll probably be mad, but she'll get over it.

Answer 7

Explain to your friend what happened. She will know that he was not a good one to go out with because he sneaks around behind people's backs. For all you know, he could do that to you next. If your relationship is really upsetting your friend, break up with him, but it she doesn't care, it's your choice.