He broke up with me, and what a reason!?

Question

My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me stating that i deserve to be loved completely and entirely and he is not feeling it at the moment, he also has said numerous times since that he wants more than anything to find what he has lost for me again and wishes more than anything to be with me again and be able to give me his whole self again,he says that its unfair to me for him to be with me as he feels that he is lying to me. This came so suddenly to me and im in such a shock as i feel that there is something wrong with me for him to be feeling like this. Has anyone been in a similar situation? im still in complete love with him and would love for him to be in my life again. Any advice will help as im so confused and dont know whether to stay or go:-(

Answer 1

I've been off & on with my Common Law Husband for 20+ years. I'm in counselling right now, & am learning that I don't deserve to be treated disrespectfully or like a door-mat.

I'm always there for him, I had surgery on my teeth & he decided out of the blue to leave me, when he was suppose to take care of me for once. No call, didn't take his things etc., left $0 money for food for the kids & I, nothing. He came back 5 days later like nothing else happened.

I'm not going to ever be put in that position by a man again. In the last 4 years he told me that I didn't have to work because he makes enough ($90,000) a year, to support us & our 2 kids. He gives me $0 money or allowance for the 10 different jobs us stay at home Mother's do, so I'm taking classes at our local College, & finding myself a job so he'll never hold money over my head again. I'd leave, but the house is owned & under both of our names.

I now just had my last of my dental surgery yesterday, & all he cared about was that he was hungry, the Dentist said that I needed someone to take care of me for my 3-4 week recovery. So I know I'm on my own.

What you're boyfriend's doing & saying is the exactly the same as mine. It's him not you, he just doesn't care or love you anymore, or he could have some on the side. Leave now if it's dangerous, if not then leave when you get your c**p together so that he can't ever do this to you this again. You're suppose to respect someone that you love, & as in both our cases it doesn't sound like our soon to be Ex's do that.

Hope things work out for you, because it will work out for me because I'm tired of the lies, the money being spent with nothing to show for it, & his total lack of love, respect, & treating me like a doormat.

Answer 2

that was way confusing,but i been though that sounds like he loves u, but he jus want some time apart to either find himself or to have a chance in taking care of u.  

Answer 3

hes just trying to pleasently reject you. What he really means is that he is sick of your asss and wants to leave you forever because he cant stand the very thought of spending the rest of his life with you. It eats at his consious and makes him feel like less of a man. He is soo over you that he doesnt even think twice or he wouldve had doubts. In fact, he is so certain that your not the women of his dreams that when he does leave you he wont ever be back again without a single doubt. Because being with you is the last thing on his mind. Now, he is happy because he can s***w whoever he wishes without a carefree worry in the world about having you as a big burden on his back. His c**k is now ready to venture out into the world and do what god intended on him to do. Sleep with as women as possible and carry on his DNA. He never wants you back. Move on with your life. :)

Answer 4

Maybe he's just not into you anymore. There's plenty of life and love to live for. Men don't always give you a clear message.

Answer 5

Oh hun Im sorry for that, but he is just being totally honest with what he is feeling and he sounds like a really nice honest guy so no wonder you are in love with him. But maybe he just needs some space and then he will be back...

I know I have loved someone in my past but not in the way they deserved so I broke it off and while it still hurt me it was the right thing to do.

Just do your best to carry on and take one hour  at a time until you can face a whole day...

all the best