He cheated...i forgave him...did i do the right thing??

Question

my bf and i dated for 4 years and just recently we had a fight...we went on a break for two wks. i found out he kissed another girl but he did not have s*x...i was devastated...i never thought he would cheat on me....i loved him enough to give him a second chance...did i do the right thing in forgiving him?? i found out it was someone from his work so i made him quit his job...but i always think about it when we argue which is rarely but its always going to be in the back of my head....

Answer 1

You did the right thing. Do not keep bringing it up or he might go to her again.

Answer 2

Been there, I took him back and it was a total mistake. I strongly believe that once someone is a cheater he/she is always a cheater and I never got over it and never trusted him again so it ruined our relationship. Best bet when that happens is to get rid of him immediately. It's good to forgive but if you know you won't get over it there is no point in going on in that relationship.

Answer 3

no! my sis and bff had this happen to them and their bfs still cheated after 3 chances.

Answer 4

You both overreacted.  He should not have kissed her, and you should not have made him quit the job.

However, if you do not get past this, and you keep on punishing him for this mistake, you are guaranteed to drive him away from you, regardless of how hurt you feel.

It takes two people to fight, so in that respect, you are just as responsible for the initial fight as he was.  You are just as responsible for the break you both took.  Yes, he should have remained faithful, but the two of you could have worked through the fight in a more mature way without the break... and he never would have strayed from you.  I'm not putting it all on you.  I am pointing out that he alone is not responsible for all of this.

Search out within yourself what it is going to take for you to get past this.  He isn't kissing her any more.  He doesn't work there any more.  You still aren't satisfied?  What is it going to take for you to get past this?  You need to find that out, and you need to communicate that to him.  If he finds it acceptable and he does it, then drop the matter entirely.

Answer 5

You did the right thing. Don't keep bringing her up or he might go back to her and if it happens again walk away.

you go girl !

Answer 6

If you were on a break, he was all game.  so. if you wanted to keep him for your self.. the break wasnt a good idea, breaks are neverrr good. never.. and making him quit his job is dumb, like what are they gonna do at work. Do it right in front of the boss/ costumers. I'd get mad at you too if you were my Girlfriend