He doesn't want to invite his relatives

Question

I am inviting all of my family to our wedding, but my fiance doesn't want to invite his nieces and nephews. They are all around their 30's, so it's not like they are kids. He gets along with them now but I don't know if there will be hard feelings after they find out. His mother is fine with this so I'm kind of confused and don't know what to do.

Answer 1

he just doesnt want to or he is adamantly opposed?  

easy to say it wont matter.  in the decades to come when you continually hear about their weddings and holdiays and graduations that you are not invited to, it will matter.  you are taking a stand as the new person in this family and you want to reach out and establish connections to other family members.  i applaud you.  

in my vast vast experience people never ever forget when they are not invited to a wedding.  if they are invited they wont even remember what the bridesmaids wore or what the menu was, but if they are excluded they take it seriously and never forget.  

  they assume that is a message to them that they are not part of the new couple's  circle of relatives.  it is shortsighted   !!!!!!!   in the most tragic way when young people exclude cousins and others from weddings only to see 10 or 15 years later when a whole generation grows up  ( and the older generation dies off)   that they because of that decision are now the ones excluded from the family events.  

i hope you and others who read this take this strong warning to heart.  i know what i am talking about.  when in doubt,  if you possibly can afford it, no matter what.....INVITE THEM.      

Answer 2

It's his wedding, too.  If he doesn't want to invite his nieces and nephews, so be it.  His mother is fine with it, so accept that.

Answer 3

why do you need to "do" anything?  He doesn't want to invite his nieces and nephews and his mother is fine with it. So what's the problem?

Answer 4

There could be underlying reasons he doesn't want to invite them - especially if his mother supports this decision. Talk to him about his choice and find out why he doesn't want them at the wedding.

Answer 5

he might have a reason why he doesn't want to invite them. my fiance is the same way he have some family members that he isn't inviting to the wedding. he even said now that he his thinking about not even letting his mother be in the wedding

i hope everything goes well.

good luck on your wedding

Answer 6

You shouldn't worry.  Its his choice who he wants.  If he doesn't fell close to them why spend the money?  

they may not be happy about not being invited but people get over it!  

Answer 7

well to be honest i am getting married in november and none of his family will be there. he does not want to invite them and i don't have a problem with it...in fact i would prefer it even though i don't know his family personally. i look at it this way...if they are mad, they are mad... dont worry about it... they will get over it and if not it was not your fault for not inviting them.

Answer 8

If he does not want them there then let it be! Why are you questioning it? He has a right to invite who he wants as well as you so why question it? There may be other reasons that he may not want them there like they may get drunk and ruin the wedding. They my be leaches come and never leave. They may just be all around bad people at parties you never know. You are getting everything thing else you want so why can't he have this one. Let sleeping dogs lay!