He ended our friendship because we have different mentalities?

Question

Me and my best guy friend are both Muslims. We were having a discussion, where he kept referring to non-Muslims as "disbelievers" which truly offended me, cause we ALL are believers in one way or another regardless of what religion we choose to follow or not follow for that matter. He argued that nobody can truly be good unless they're Muslim, and then I argued that I know plenty of non-Muslims who are better than the Muslim ones I know. You're not good because you belong to a certain faith, you're good if you uphold good morals and values. He called me fake, and told me to never talk to him again.. he blocked me off facebook and MSN, just because I didn't agree with him. Thats the reason why I don't like many Muslim people, don't get me wrong I love my religion.. it's beautiful, but I can't say the same about its followers. This was my best guy friend who I told everything to, who talked to me about everything, and he's ending our friendship over different mentalities. I'm angry and hurt to say the least. What are your opinions?

Answer 1

He may have been your best friend, but apparently you weren't his. He doesn't sound like the kind of person who would change, so I would suggest you write him off and seek other friends. Sometimes, we just have to give up on some people.  

Answer 2

Please, remember this next time you talk to an Atheist.

Answer 3

he is a jerk,leave him alone!

Answer 4

well,i might be for the best, close mined, opened minded, what u believe in. what he believes in. whats right and whats wrong.verses reality . sooo were all here together soo its ok, you just might have to walk a mile by your self.

Answer 5

give him a couple of days call him and ask him did he miss you. If it's true friendship he'll still be there.

Answer 6

  Such people  should be avoided and they could  very possibly be  dangerous.  .Be thankfull you are out of that situation... God bless.

Answer 7

Well Julia, things like this happen when one does not truly know the depth of another person's beliefs, no matter how close you may believe yourself to be with that person.

This episode also tells me that you are closer to having the heart and mind of God than your friend. Everyone, no matter what they believe, must be able to show patience, compassion, and understanding with others of different faiths and especially people of your own faith. Even if we cannot agree on the same God, at least we can live in relative peace with each other. Just give him his space and most of all continue to be yourself. Do not let this situation change you or hurt you any further. Just pray for your friend and hope for the best, that is all you can really do.

The last thing I would like to help you with is this: When we look at God's Word He tells us that there are none righteous, there are none that are good. Understanding this will help us understand God's reasons for our need of salvation. It also helps us understand the basic nature of mankind so that we do not allow things like this to upset us more than necessary. I know it hurts in your heart, I've lost family and friends too because of my faith, but God is able to prepare us for these events as we study His Word and pray for His discernment, knowledge, and peace.

I hope that my being a Christian does not, in any way, deter you from learning about and understanding what I have said to you.

Answer 8

It happens in Christianity too...some people embrace the spirit of the law, other people become obsessed by the letter of it....

Answer 9

Finished. Please read it all. I wrote and rewrote, edited and edited again and prayed some more. Here it is, from the depths of my heart.

Let me pray on it and get back to you.

Back. More to come. I just wanted to let you know I am back and writing the rest of my answer. I will put a big FINISHED at the top when I am done.

Sometimes we mature faster than others we associate with. That has happened to me. Someone who was a best friend becomes a used-to-be friend. Three times I have had a best friend for a few years and then after a while they have started seeming more and more immature. We drifted apart. In one of the cases years later we reconnected and regained much of what we once had. But the older you get the more likely you will find those who are really long-term friends. You cannot force him (your ex-best friend) to accept you and be your friend. True friendship is a two-way street the same way a relationship with Allah is a two way street. While God is always there waiting for us, and while God is indeed our best friend, we do not always return that friendship. But still He patiently waits for us.

I suggest you follow that example. Do not turn your back on your friend but do not force yourself on him. God is, I am sure, sad when we turn our backs on Him, but He never turns his back on us. If you are a true Muslim, and I believe you are, you will return his hate with love. It may have to be love and friendship from a great distance, but let that be his choice, not yours.

That was the easy part. Here is what I had to pray about.

This I have included simply because my heart says to do it. The words you used touched my heart but I was unsure whether to include what I am about to say. I finally followed what my heart said from the first. I love your religion also, just as I love mine. I once rejected yours along with all the others I had studied and at that time did not know about mine. I rejected yours partly because I felt if there was a true religion there would be no divisions within it.

Just as in Christianity, there are now divisions within what was a once one unified group of people calling themselves Muslims. Is that what God wishes? I do not think so. Though that was not His desire, He knew it would happen. He also knew that there would be enmity between those of all his followers. Jews against Christians against Muslims against Hindus against Buddhists. I believe He made provision for that and provided a way for us all to eventually come together as one. I have studied more religions than most people know exist. All of them have something good and positive in them. Either none of them came from a God because no God exists, or, as you said all religions came from One God and that God is the inspiration even for many beliefs of the Atheists. Once I decided there was no God, I was not easily convinced otherwise, but eventually I had to admit that was the only thing that made sense if one looked at all the evidence. I am a member of the Bahá’í Faith for many reasons, but I strongly feel that is the only way we are all going to come together and have a world as one family, a world finally at peace. That by itself I feel is a pretty compelling reason to take a serious look at it. If you live in one of the countries or in some area your life would be in danger if you embraced it, then that could be a good reason to ignore it and simply live your life as you have been. But you sound a great deal like a Bahá’í. I do not have the right to choose for anyone and not telling you when I have the opportunity and my heart says it is right is in a sense choosing for you. We may never meet on this plane of existence, but I do not want you to come to me somewhere and sometime in the next and say, “Why didn’t you? I was ready for it!”

Peace, my brother,

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God has given man the eye of investigation by which he may see and recognize truth. He has endowed man with ears that he may hear the message of reality and conferred upon him the gift of reason by which he may discover things for himself. This is his endowment and equipment for the investigation of reality. Man is not intended to see through the eyes of another, hear through another's ears nor comprehend with another's brain. Each human creature has individual endowment, power and responsibility in the creative plan of God. Therefore depend upon your own reason and judgment and adhere to the outcome of your own investigation; otherwise you will be utterly submerged in the sea of ignorance and deprived of all the bounties of God. ... We must not be content with simply following a certain course because we find our fathers pursued that course. It is the duty of everyone to investigate reality, and investigation of reality by another will not do for us.

(Abdu'l-Baha, Foundations of World Unity, p. 76)

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Say, O followers of the Son![Jesus] Have ye shut out yourselves from Me by reason of My Name? Wherefore ponder ye not in your hearts? Day and night ye have been calling upon your Lord, the Omnipotent, but when He came from the heaven of eternity in His great glory, ye turned aside from Him and remained sunk in heedlessness.

Consider those who rejected the Spirit [Jesus] when He came unto them with manifest dominion. How numerous the Pharisees who had secluded themselves in synagogues in His name, lamenting over their separation from Him, and yet when the portals of reunion were flung open and the divine Luminary shone resplendent from the Dayspring of Beauty, they disbelieved in God, the Exalted, the Mighty. They failed to attain His presence, notwithstanding that His advent had been promised them in the Book of Isaiah as well as in the Books of the Prophets and the Messengers. No one from among them turned his face towards the Dayspring of divine bounty except such as were destitute of any power amongst men. And yet, today, every man endowed with power and invested with sovereignty prideth himself on His Name. Moreover, call thou to mind the one who sentenced Jesus to death. He was the most learned of his age in his own country, whilst he who was only a fisherman believed in Him. Take good heed and be of them that observe the warning.

(Baha'u'llah, Tablets of Baha'u'llah, p. 9)

O Jews! If ye be intent on crucifying once again Jesus, the Spirit of God, put Me to death, for He hath once more, in My person, been made manifest unto you. Deal with Me as ye wish, for I have vowed to lay down My life in the path of God. I will fear no one, though the powers of earth and heaven be leagued against Me. Followers of the Gospel! If ye cherish the desire to slay Muhammad, the Apostle of God, seize Me and put an end to My life, for I am He, and My Self is His Self. Do unto Me as ye like, for the deepest longing of Mine heart is to attain the presence of My Best-Beloved in His Kingdom of Glory. Such is the Divine decree, if ye know it. Followers of Muhammad! If it be your wish to riddle with your shafts the breast of Him Who hath caused His Book the Bayan to be sent down unto you, lay hands on Me and persecute Me, for I am His Well-Beloved, the revelation of His own Self, though My name be not His name. I have come in the shadows of the clouds of glory, and am invested by God with invincible sovereignty. He, verily, is the Truth, the Knower of things unseen. I, verily, anticipate from you the treatment ye have accorded unto Him that came before Me. To this all things, verily, witness, if ye be of those who hearken. O people of the Bayan! If ye have resolved to shed the blood of Him Whose coming the Báb hath proclaimed, Whose advent Muhammad hath prophesied, and Whose Revelation Jesus Christ Himself hath announced, behold Me standing, ready and defenseless, before you. Deal with Me after your own desires.

(Baha'u'llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha'u'llah, p. 100)

Answer 10

Honestly, friends come and go in life. Don't compromise yourself for anyone.  

Answer 11

Good !

he is not worthy of you!

God says He accepts All men of all nations that do works of righteousness.

that implies all religions.

Jesus said love your enemy, he taught against hatred, afterall every believer that loves their enemies will gain a freind before they lose their life in a war or jihad.  

Answer 12

Don't be hurt and angry over something someone says or thinks.

Just let him go his own way and let him think whatever he wants. You can't control him any more than he can control you.

If he can't agree to disagree than there's no point letting him get to you that way.

Answer 13

I like the advise to give it a few days.  The poster who suggested that is right.  If it was a true friendship, he'll still be your friend.  I wouldn't talk religion with him, again, however, because what he's talking about is pure hatred.  I'm glad you don't agree with him.  

Answer 14

So you have learned not to bare all on face-book, huh?

He sounded like a typical moslim man telling a woman that his way is the only way.

People like this are also known as fanatics.

You're better off without him.

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Answer 15

I think he has done you a favor.  He isn't much of a friend if he can't respect your beliefs, but insists you respect his.

I lost my best friend because she became a crazy fundie who told me I was going to h**l all the time.

I found better friends who are respectful of my beliefs...and so will you.

Answer 16

Another pure thought is slaughtered by blind belief.