He has a girlfriend and he is flirting with me big time!?! HELP Im Clueless!!!!!!?

Question

We met at the Vatican (italy) on a school trip. Through out the whole two weeks he was totally flirting with me by holding my hand, puting his arms around me and saying he loved me, always touching me, and making gestures when he would walk by me like saying "mmm". People on the trip told him in front of everyone to stop flirting with me because he has a girlfriend. A month after the trip i saw him at the gym and he slapped my butt. I said "that really hurt" and he said "dont worry ill make it better". People told me that is not how he acts with other girls. He is pretty popular and if his girlfriend wanted too, she could make my school life h**l! I wouldn't say i flirt back with him. But this year im going to be in to clubs with him and a class with him! What do I do!? Im so clueless!

Answer 1

Men and  women flirt with each other all the time. Men do it to test what they can get away with. It doesn't matter whether the men have girlfriends or wives, the key is the response of the other woman. If you reciprocate his advances knowing that he is involved with someone else, he will never respect you. My recommendation is to get your own boyfriend and invest time in him. Nothing good can come out of this situation, but I know from your letter that you are still going to get involved with this guy, girlfriend or not. Good Luck.

Answer 2

You should tell this guy to get lost!  If he has a girlfriend and he is touching you and telling you he loves you, he is a loser and a jerk.  He probably has tried his moves on many girls.

Additionally, you say that the girlfriend could make trouble for you--why give her a reason to?

Life is short--there is little time to suffer fools!