He has not bothered to wish me happy birthday today. Is there still hope in this relationship?

Question

My husband of 18 years has not bothered even to wish me happy b'day. Where this relation is heading for? There is no fight, no argument..just a silence...a silence.....which is going on...and on........

Answer 1

maybe he is trying to fix up a surprise or maybe he just for got. it may sound crazy but its true, sometimes we do for get simple things like birthdays and sometimes even holidays. if i were you try to spice up your relationship. talk more hang out more. you guys should make it a habit to talk normally. after all that's what marriage is all about talking and being that other persons whole. I'm glad to hear that there is no fighting in the relationship but all we need here is to talk. just work on going out and having that fun relationship like the one you had before like when you just started dating  :]

Answer 2

well... maybe he is planning something for you. i dont think you should be asking us tho, cuz what if you make the wrong decision

Answer 3

well my Husband didn't wish me a Happy Birthday till late in the afternoon Yesterday,I was getting concerned he had for got about me and my Day.But he surprised me with a Dozen roses .Which I usually get nothing.So Maybe he will do something for you this afternoon or evening,I hope for your sake he does.Since I din;t think he was going to do anything for me I went and treat my self and got my nails done.

Happy Birthday!!!!!

Answer 4

Me and my wife are living the same situation since 25 years at home i am silent  

if she ask i answer jut for a question .

i love my wife  she is the best gift god offer to me i can not  imagin my life fare from her .

things tranformed me like this that i can not say no for every thing she ask or she do( buying goods spending money) .she is doing legale things but above my capacity .i ask my self when she will understand and share the life problems with me i feel she force me to face the life alone and this make me sad every time i look at her  i hope she will and understand. about your birthday life becomes hard and we ask our self how many things we forget every day we are a human not a machine we have to remember each other to avoid those situations

Answer 5

What did you do to him?

Answer 6

forgeting birthday is kind of a man thing..as for the silence...talk :-D

Answer 7

He is a man.

Men forget lots of things and not on purpose.  I have seen my dad forget my mom's birthday.  Just remind him and if he gets really upset and tries to make it up to you then you should be ok.

Answer 8

You didn't tell us how old you both are.

as some one stated earlier, he could be playing with you to make you think he has forgotten and is going to surprise you later on.

Have you noticed him forgetting other things of late ? he may have early signs of Alzheimer's, don't have a go at him for forgetting, he needs you now more than ever if that is the case.

Handle with care and remember your vows, >> in sickness and health, as long as yea both shall live.

I hope i'm wrong.

Happy Birthday Darling. X's

Answer 9

Maybe he is planning something for you, a surprise?

Answer 10

he might be planing a party for you oh yea  happy birthday

Answer 11

This is an indication of deeper troubles, have it out with him, may be time to move on.

Answer 12

either somethins goin on

he's mad at u, or he's plannin somethin fer u

if u still don't think he remembered, say somethin to him ?

Answer 13

Maybe you should say something then??

Answer 14

Talk to him openly.  Communication is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship.  If you and your husband cannot communication honestly with each other, then I think it is probably over.  If there is a problem between my husband and I, we always talk about it.  Just ask you husband what is wrong, what you both can do to make you relationship stronger (assuming you want to), and that you are feeling isolated and distanced. Also, tell him that it hurt you that he did not wish you happy birthday. Good luck.

Answer 15

Maybe he is planning something really special and he doesnt want to let anything slip and you wont have a surprise anymore. Just wait a little longer. so yes there is always hope

also Happy birthday

Answer 16

I'd say the relationship has already sailed...

18 years and not even a grunt?  OH HECK NO.  

Guess you need to ask yourself if you're happy or just dealing with the fact.  If there is silence, then there's no communication.  No communication, no relationship.  

How long has this silence been going on?  That will tell you when the relationship headed south.  

Sounds like you two need to have a conversation about the relationship.  That's bigger than the birthday at this point.  

Either you guys want to be married or not.  Ask him.  If he says he still wants to be married, then you guys need some help.

If he says he doesn't, ask him what went wrong, voice your feelings too.  And then decide what will happen next.  Good luck.