I'm in a committed, serious relationship. He has a stressful job and his mother is, and has been, very ill. He's been saying things that bother me. I feel like he talks down to me. I told him this. He says that he's afraid to say anything at all to me now. I told him if we don't communicate, our relationship will fall apart and that he has to take a risk that he might hurt my feelings. -We could talk about it.. The conversation ended in me apologizing and telling him I guess I should just get over it. I'm still not satisfied. Here's an example of one of the conversations that get me: I'm running bath water for my child. I notice there isn't any hot water. I casually mention it to him in the living room of new apartment. He says nothing. I walk to the sink and check the faucet. (There were many problems with the apt and who knows, maybe the faucet to the sink might work) He says, "Don't you know how water heaters work? I ran the dishwasher several times today and the water has to reheat." I explained to him my thoughts about the hot water being disconnected to the tub. I also know there should have been some hot water there because it had been awhile since he had run the dishes through. It turns out, the water heater was broken. Another thing is that I'm a single mom and I do the best I can for my child. He's wanting me to change several things to fit his schedule. For instance, he wants to eat at the dinner table. I haven't owned one so this isn't a routine of mine. I realize it is my fault for not sticking my child in a highchair but is it really that necessary considering he's usually done with his dinner and leaves the table in a fraction of the time it takes me to eat? I understand that tradition means more to some than others. I am willing to work with his requests but feel that he's opposing me all the way. For instance, he drinks alot of sodas out of a can. I asked if he could switch to a bottle tonight after my child spilled one. I also worry she'll cut a finger because he leaves his empties lying around. He says that they cost more and he goes through too many of them to use a bottle. Any other women out there that understand what I'm feeling? Am I being overly sensitive?
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