He just doesn't get it...he's weird?

Question

i have this classmate, he...is by far...the biggest JERK I have ever been classmates with. I've just transfered colleges and i'm a new student at this school...i met him coz he seemed friendly...BOY was I WRONG!!!!!.I'm naturaly friendly so i befriended him but wow...BIG MISTAKE!..

He is notorious for being a Jerk and having no friends...i can't explain how much of a jerk he is coz you might not have time to read it...he insults people, shouts at them, he's rude, a feeler, and many more...

The WEIRD thing is, no mater how people already show that they don't like him...he JUST DOESN'T GET IT. He still talks and interacts with them like old buddies (even right after he shouts and insults them)...

Me and my senior are trying to ignore him and show that we don't like him but 5 mins later he comes near us and suddenly chat about etc etc. No matter what he just doesn't get it.

I'm not really a rude person, but i think i really have to push my inner rudeness just to get rid of this guy...I doubt talking to him is effective. What do we do?? He's weird and has no friends and he talks with random people...specially me! (and believe me...I DETEST him...)

Answer 1

I totally understand that situation.

I used to know a guy with a horrible personality, he would lie to us about everything, make up stuff that couldn't possibly be true just to seem interesting. He would harass girls, bother whoever had the misfortune of sitting next to him in class but at the end of the day he'd just talk to you like buddy buddy.

Worst part is, that because I'm generally a nice and helpful person I just couldn't get myself to telling him. I've been thinking that it may be some sort of personality disorder like a form of autism or ADHD but in the end figuring out what's driving him isn't really going to help you.

I chose the quite way out and never confronted him. We'll be going to different schools now so he won't bother me anymore.

If you're looking at another several months together with this person, I'd consider going for the inner rudeness approach.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like he has a mental issue!  I would say if he were to ever curse you out to let him know that you aren't going to tolerate it and when he comes up and tries to act like everything is normal..remind him of how he acted towards you and stop talking to him!  Maybe one day Mr. Weirdo will get the hint..hopefully..good luck..he sounds creepy!

Answer 3

Avoid him!  After a few weeks on that he should hopefully get the clue that you don't want anything to do with him.

Answer 4

are you strong enough to be quietly rude?  often it is the only thing that gets through to some people.  i am not a rude person, but i am capable of being rude if the situation requires it.  this fellow needs to be sat down in a non-confrontational setting and quietly told the truth, without the lables.  tell him straight out that you tried to be his friend but that his disrespectful attitude toward others is an embarassment to you.  and until he changes his attitude you would like him to keep his disrespectful opinions to himself.  then walk away, again quietly..if you allow him to take over this conversation it will desolve into a childish scene, so just keep walking, don't even look back as that would engourage more noise.