He keeps walking out

Question

He keeps walking out im pregnant

Im 24 years old and live with my boyfriend i have a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship and am 8 months pregnant. my boyfriend left me when i was 2 months pregnnat and ignored me 4 three months he said it was my fault, i couldnt get hold of him at all he changed his phone number i had to leave messages with his brother for appointments he would go to some off them if he wasnt busy. anyway i felt very hurt and didnt know if i could trust him but we decided to give it another go as we still loved each other. Anyway iv slowly started to trust him again but the problem is everytime he's in a mood or im we have a disagreement he says im going back to my mums and then leaves! this makes me feel abandoned and down all over again. he wont speak to me or sort things out. and these disagreements are not even big arguements its like im not aloud to disagree with him. i feel like he knows how depressed and stressed i get and uses it to hurt me. iv told him its hurting me but he doesnt understand. Also he's very close to my daughter as her dad doesnt see him and im told him he cant do this to her. we are meant to be a family and he keeps bailing out, going back to his parents for a few days once a week. just want to know why hes doing this. his parents also seem to think this is acceptable behaviour and are under the impression he's living with them.i know theres no other girl involved. so im confused as to whats going on

Answer 1

honestly it sounds like her really doesn't care about the relationship he has with u and is very immature. He sounds like a jerk and if he leaves u again i'd say forget about having an intimate romantic relationship with him. U are 24 have one kid and are about to have another the guy u are with is unhealthy and ur focus needs to be on ur kids and trying to find a person who will stay with u and work with u even during disagreements and doesn't run away and throw a tantrum when things get rough especially over little disagreements. You need a mature man, not a little boy who lives with his parents. Be sure to get his name on the birth certificate and ur child support payments, but realize he may not always be there for you or ur child.

Answer 2

He is still acting like a child.  You need to focus on yourself and your child and the child you are about to have and forget him.  You may be meant to be together but not the way he is acting, not now.  He has the power in the relationship and is using it against you.  I know you don't want that.  One poster said a relationship is meant to be fun that is true but you still have your dissagreements and you don't walk out like he does.  That is childish and selfish.  And be sure to put his name on the birth certificate and get child support.  You will need it.  Cut him loose and concentrate raising your own children and if you want to give him a scheduled visitation rights and make him keep the schedule.  Children need schedules it makes them feel safe.  If he does not keep the scheduled visitation keep record of when he brushes them off.  Its not about him and he is making it all about him.

Answer 3

Sorry but obviously your just not meant to be together. A relationship is supposed to be fun not hurtful. If you are only staying together for the sake of the baby I think that is wrong. My parents split up and I thank god for the day that happened. I was sick of having to be around them evertime they had an argument or dissagreement when I was younger.

Answer 4

you need to cut him out do you really want your kids to have a father that keeps walking out on them?

you'll be better off on your own

i wish you all the best of luck

Answer 5

He is just stuffing you around. Your 8 months pregnant , do you really need this stress right now ? do you want to hurt you daughter and your self ?

Tell him to p**s off until he can grow up and take responsibility for his family and his actions.

If you don't take this bye the balls , it will always be like this

Answer 6

Your boyfriend obviously feels trapped. Did it ever occur to you to get a serious commitment from him, as in marriage? Did it occur to you that both parents should be in the decision making when it comes to having babies? That does not mean that I do not feel for you in the situation but sometimes we really do need to think about the consequences of our actions before we do things. Good luck with him at any rate.