He left for 3 months and now he is back...?

Question

We have been together for 10 years, married and have a child together. We were fighting and he just up and left us to move to another state. We always talked after he left but I dont know if i love him anymore. He has hurt me so much. And I know i wasnt perfect to him either. Now he is back... I dont know what to do. Im moving into a new apartment in 2 weeks. Tomorrow we are having lunch together - the three of us. I am just so confused... HELP...

Answer 1

ten years is so long to be together and have someone just walk out on u, as if u never mattered to him at all.a man w2ho leaves u could very well leave again, don't put too much trust in him if u do decide to take him back.u won't easily forget the hurt.

Answer 2

If he left you and moved to another state, then he could do it again.

You probably don't even know if he was with another woman those 3 months.

You should tell him that he doesn't respect you, left you for 3 months, and hurt you a lot.

I would get a divorce, but thats up to you. You have to decide.

Do you wanna get back with him and hope for the best, or do you wanna end it and start over again?

Good luck!

Answer 3

I wouldn't advice taking your kid to the luncheon thing tomorrow, what if you two end up arguing or better yet, what if you two make up and want to be alone to get intimate

Answer 4

I wouldn't take him back.  If he could stay gone 3 months then he doesn't care much about you.  

Answer 5

well the only thing you can do is go to lunch and see how you 2 react to each other and see how it goes and i think you will know i hope everything goes well and good luck i hope you have happiness from now on :)

Answer 6

Please don't take this the wrong way. I am not trying to be rude...but your situation angers me. He left you, after 10 years of marriage, with a child and now he is back like nothing. You need to respect yourself and your child. You can't just turn your back on your familly and then just show back up...the fact that you talked 'always' means nothing. If he really cared about you and your child, he would have done everything in his power to stay with you. He could have seeked counseling or something like that...up and moving is not an option. Open your eyes. He will only hurt you again. You already know this though...you just want us to convince you otherwise....let him go. your child deserves better.

Answer 7

Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder like the old saying goes. Absence makes the heart forget. Maybe if you see him again it will rekindle your love. If it doesn't then it really must be over.