He needs to breathe, bad thing for me?

Question

I was in a relationship where everything was perfect. But ever since my boyfriend started working again, he went nuts. He didn't want to play music anymore, he didn't want to see his friends anymore and he didn't want to be with me anymore. After telling me he loved me one night, he left for the weekend to see his family, he came back telling me it was over and he needed to find himself, After a very VERY painful week we met again to talk, I needed to talk, to understand. He told me that he needed to find himself, that he couldnt take care of me because he couldnt take care of himself. He didn't want a typical break, out of fear that he won't come back. On my side, I've never felt this way before ( i'm an adult) and I feel that it isn't the end, I just feel it. We agreed on taking care of ourselves on each of our sides and talk again within a month. He says he loves me still, but it isnt like it used to be in the beginning, that he has doubts about our relationship and he needed to think about himself. I could write to him earlier in the month if I wanted to and that he was going to think about me. Right now, I'm afraid, I fear that he won't come back, that'll he'll forget about me. I don't want to get my hopes up but I still want to see the good in this, I miss him...I'm pathetic.Advice?

I apologize if you fall on this question twice, I decided to ask again, just to see.

Answer 1

let him breathe. how's not ready for something as serious as you're offering.

i mean that's not to say he's going to go bone all these chicks, but this is a sort of quarter-life crisis for him, i'd say.

the only thing you can do is sweat it out. don't pressure or smother him.

Answer 2

He sounds depressed and unsure of himself.  This is no reflection on you.  He just can't love anyone until he loves himself.  Sometimes people who are depressed try to isolate themselves from those they care about.

What's meant to be will always find its way.

Just be patient!

Answer 3

I don't need to even read the whole thing.  He wants to break up.

There may be another girl, or he may want to just play the field.

That is honest...it's got nothing to do with finding yourself, or taking a break or anything...it's over, unless you both really try to sit down and figure out what is important.

Answer 4

ok well if u asked twice ur obviously deeply in love with this

dude but he is probably stressed out dont try to hard to get

back with him because i doubt he will like that. the guy is confused poor dude help as a friend not a gf  

Answer 5

you are so not pathetic. i am going through the same thing. i dont know whether to ball up and cry or to just leave and deal with the pain. when a man needs his space its always for a specific reason whether its a good one or bad. maybe he's hiding something from you and he doesnt want you to hurt any much more than you already are. you are going to miss him but give him his time and when he gets his mind right he will come back to you.