He said if i aborted our baby he would stay with me,now hes with some other girl?!?

Question

He hurt me by the worst EVER you can do to a girl.

He said he wanted me and loved me,He said if i got a abortion that he would stay with me,stupidly i believed him and a day after without even telling me had to find out for myself that hes got with some other girl.He also said to the other girl i wish it was you carring my baby!

I feel like a fool and like c**p!

He said to me stright after i still want to be your mate though and we can still meet up i want to help you through this.But how can he say this when hes broke my heart?

i dont even like him in that way anymore,but i want to hurt him,play him ,mess him just like he did to me!

what should i do?

Sorry for re-posting just delted the other questions as it wasn't letting me post them!

Thanks for all your answers .

Answer 1

honey i am so sorry this had to happen to you. be prepared for a bit more grief, this is a sensitive subject among pregnant women.

all you can do, is learn from your experience, pick yourself up and build a stronger wall against those who are out to take advantage of you. this guy obviously had no sense of heart and soul and was clearly a very manipulative tw*t.. take regular contraception so that when you do find the right man and want to settle down your more in control.

you can't change what happened, and as sad as this may sound, everything happens for a reason. can you honestly see yourself settling with a child with this man? or being tied to him for the rest of you life? EVERYTHING happens for a reason, this will no doubt teach you one of lifes great lessons. you should embrace it and move on with your life a stronger woman.

good luck hun.xx

Answer 2

Let her deal with him. Forget him he sounds like a mean, nasty selfish boy. You sound like you could do so much better than him. Move on and find someone who deserves your love. He doesn't sound like he would have been a good father and there will be someone out there that will treat you right and be a gr8 father to your child. Don't let this boy ruin you for other relationships and he isn't worth another tear.

Answer 3

Thats pathetic, you killed your baby for the sake of keeping a man? You deserve everything you get.

Answer 4

You need to ignore this boy, and get some counseling for yourself. The fact that he wants to cheat with you after all he put you through is enough to show what type of person he is.

Answer 5

I know this isnt what you wanna hear but you shouldnt have listened to him. A guy who forces you into murder is not going to stay with you. I think that you may need some councillling or something or perhaps just talk to a friend.

Dont meet up with him or anything like that, he is obviusly a scunbag so why associate yourself with him.

Answer 6

he is a complete mother f-er i'll tell you that one for free.

******* *** hole.

get him good.

idk how but i hope you hurt him really bad for what he has done to you.

im soo sorry for what youve had to go through -hugs-

ever need to talk just mail me (:

xxxx

Answer 7

first of all you should never abort a baby unless you 100 percent sure for yourself, but it was your desicion and you have to learn from that.  some boys can be very nasty to girls you just gotta get through this, you will find a good person one day, just think to the future think positive just get him out your life its over now he will probably mistreat the new girl, just gotta get on with your life now, most people have some c**p relationships and a few heartbreaks before you meet the right one,  so dont let this destroy you. get some mates together and go partying take your mind of it

Answer 8

Forget about him sweetie

He aint worth a thing

Get your girls over, get loadsa choccie in and have a good old girly night to make yourself feel better :)

Answer 9

That's what happens when you lay down and spread your legs for a man who isn't your husband.  Maybe you learned a valuable lesson here.  Was it worth killing your baby for him??

Answer 10

You shouldn't have believed him and serve you right for killing a life!! Also did you want the baby?

Answer 11

sweetie,

  depending on your situation you may still be better off. How old are you. Im Deidre and Im 43 and I now have a 3 yr old don with no where to go. 20 yrs ago I gave up my daughter cause I did drugs. Ive never gotten over it. Also When I first had s*x I got preg and at 6 months they made me terminate my baby I wanted him more than the world. ONly now do I realize how much it messed up my whole life and nothing ever filled the gap. Recently I read a book about grieving aborted babies and you know over 20 yrs later I found out I never fully got over that boy of mine. But nothing or no one ever took his place either. Dont mess with the scumbag it put poison in your blood. the best revenge is doing well. Hes a jerk and God will deal with him you just take care of you and name that baby and always remember God has the baby now and its watching you from heaven. Have a ceremony. Bless that he was destined to be and that scum took him away from you. stay away from him. you will get over him in time but you may never get over the baby....Hang in there. Im almost homeless and Im really sick and could die. But I still have a prayer in my heart for you. Sorry for your pain. But you listen to Deidre and you stay away from the jerk!!!!

Answer 12

Time to move on, young lady.  Drop him like a hot rock and take some time for you.  You need to mourn your loss, that will take some time.  It is not going to be easy, and you will cry a lot.  Get some abortion support. They have groups, and counselling because it is NOT easy.  You learned a huge lesson.  You cannot rely on a boy.  He is immature and not good for you. Change your cell number and do not meet with him.  He has proved his colors.  

You are NOT a murderer, hon, you made a very traumatic decsison not to have a baby you could not have known he would dump you.  It is going to take a while for all this to settle.  Get some counselling please.

Answer 13

just be happy he isnt the father of your child :)

Answer 14

do you know what.....?

men are little idiots

dont waste tears on him

because he isnt on you

and its more than likely he'll hurt the next girl and the next

it may hurt alot but see it like this

you've got that pig out of your life and you deserve someone better

someone that would love you and want you to have their child

and if you want to hurt him, dont meet up with him

show him you've moved on and dont need him

because that will hurt the most

he'll see it as if your not always thinking about him and you couldn't care less

thats gonna get on his nerves

good luck

Answer 15

And you did abort the baby?

Well...whats done is done and you can't change that. But don't beat yourself up over this. It's all a part of learning from your mistakes. That guy is a total jerk and you don't deserve that. Stay away from him and when the time comes, kick his A$$ for causing you to go through this.

If you need anything, email meh.

Answer 16

I cannot believe some of the vitriol I read on this site.

To those that call girl kid a murderer, what do you call the man that coerced her into this so called called " Murder"?

She comes across as very naive, he took advantage of her and continued to act in callous way.

She has already had the abortion, and she came on here for help, not to be insulted.  It is clear she is suffering as it is.  To all you religious people that replied, would it be better if she feels so depressed, so regretful and so ashamed that she went out and committed suicide?  I'm sure Jesus would have wanted that way. ( sarcasm - for ya yanks out there)

To the Poster

The guy is not worth it, it is understandable that you want revenge, but try seek to move on with your life

no decent  man would not behave in the way he has.

Ignore those nasty answers, people are often judgemental hypocrites

Please try and get some professional help to guide you through this.

If you are underage, have this guy charged with having s*x with a minor.  If you want revenge, don't play him, go down the legal route and try and destroy him.

Answer 17

omg what an ****. you have to dump him and tell him to eff off.

abort it only if you really feel you want to do that-the other option is the adoption agency.

Answer 18

I can't beileve you people on here. This is obviously a young girl who is still nieve, sorry but I don't know what else to say. Don't sit here and tell her she killed her baby, and then you people wonder why so many teens kill themselves. SHE ALREADY HAD s*x AND ALREADY HAD AN ABORTION. You nor she can change that now so help her.

I do not think that what you did was the best decision by any means. But you must realise that the guy you were with was an a*****e. He did not want the responsible of a baby and told you w/e he had to to get you to abort the pregnancy. You will have to live with that yourself. As hard as it is do not even talk to him anymore, he has already hurt you in a million ways that you will probably never forget. DO NOT waste your time getting him back just move on before he hurts you again!

Answer 19

Will people stop calling her a 'murderer'? This isn't Yahoo Insults.

If you can't say anything nice to this young lady, then leave.

Maybe you are better off without him.

Answer 20

boys are idiots you should never listen to them

Answer 21

I'm sorry he did this to you, but you must do what's right, and you will know the answer in your heart, dig deep into your soul.

Answer 22

try to talk to him. if his not ready or you both not ready to become parents. well try to abort or in the future the baby will suffer. because the parents are not ready to become parents and not responsible.

Answer 23

Look is that really what you want to be with someone who doesnt love you and tell you to give up something growing inside of you..

Look I promise theres someone out there for you. Hold you head high and try be stronge.. He will look at you in the end and relaise he made the biggest mistake of his life.

I really hope you stay stronge.

Answer 24

i cant believe i am reading this story because this is exactly the same as me ! everything you said happened to me so i know how you feel hunny, he has taken advantage of you and the situation unfortunatly i have no answers for you because there is nothing at the minute that will take away the pain it gets easier but you have to understand that this person is no good for you after all he is the one that forced this upon you !

Take care be strong and if you want to talk email me

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we can talk and be there for each other x*x

Answer 25

have you had an abortion or are you still carying the child?

il pop back later and give you more of an answer when i know more

hi again well whats done is done all you can do is make him suffer but to be honest with you i dont know how you know his weakneses so play on them. make sure everyone knows what he did to you and dont let him get away with it.

if you ever need a chat im here for you.

good luck

Answer 26

Tell him what a disgusting piece of garbage he is, tell everyone you know, and then NEVER speak to him again.  

You seem more upset about being dumped and cheated on than by killing your baby.  What's done is done and I hope you learn from this and move on.

Answer 27

I'm sorry but he never tricked you or lied, you did it to your self.

how could you not see that anyone that told you he would love you and stay with you but only if you killed your baby, was not a person you should trust.

the signs where there from day one you just looked the other way and hoped they would go away or he would change.

why don't girls get to know the men they sleep with before they sleep with them ? i mean long before they have a child.

its your fault you did not bother to get to know him first now your child has paid for it with its life coz you was stupid, so don't blame him blame your self

Answer 28

I am really sorry....but why do'nt you chuck him out of your life and MOVE ON......

Answer 29

Poor you,

Just get out of his life and stay out of it, you learnt the hard way that guys dont care about you and their babies. I hope you get some counselling for this

Answer 30

I think all happened the same as it should be. bcoz you have aborted a baby and in my view aborting a baby is same as murder. now pray to God that He forgives your mistake.

Answer 31

did you get the abortion? if you did ***** YOU KILLED SOMEONE!

WHY DID YOU DO THAT TO YORU CHILD! HE DIDNT WANT TO BE KILLED OFF!

and hurt your ex in everyway possible!

make his life h**l.

to an extent that you cant get arrested and enough to destroy his whole life.

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PLEASE HELP! ITS ABOUT ME AND MY GF!