He says he will but is he just saying that?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been together for a while now and he keeps telling me he will one day propose to me......... but is he just saying that because i want him to? i am a wedding photographer and i dont know if i have maybe scared him off by me telling him all these stories or if his waiting for my dads approval!!!!! i dont know if i should keep hoping or just forget it and have fun with my life instead of worring and constantly thinking "is this the day"

and one have ideas on how to clear my head and if he will ever propose?

Answer 1

maybe he will, maybe he won't. The future is too unpredictable to tell.

Answer 2

Just enjoy life.I'm sure he will propose.Maybe he's planning it out.

Answer 3

My fella has been saying the same thing for over a year now....and I found out the other day that he hasn't asked me yet becuase he wants it to be special and the more I ask him and am expecting it the less of a nice surprise it will be!!!

So I'd say stop asking him...stop mentioning it....stop thinking about it (as much as you can) and when you least expect it he'll ask you x

good luck x

Answer 4

My boyfriend and I dated over 5 years before he "officially" proposed. After seeing each other about 2 years he did tell me that he wanted to marry me, but wanted to wait until my sons finished high school.  We always talked about "When we are married....."  My youngest son graduated in May, 2007. At the beginning of this year, I did a lot of praying and finally told God that if all he had planned for my boyfriend and I was to just be very good friends, then I would be content with that and accept whatever He had planned.  Then I quit thinking about getting married and concentrated on making my life as happy and fulfilling as I could.   Then on Valentine's Day, I got the surprise of my life when he went down on one knee in a crowded restaurant and "officially" asked me to marry him.  A bigger surprise was when he said he wanted to be married within 6 months to a year. (I figured after taking 5 years to propose, he would want to wait quite a while for the wedding.)  Our wedding is on August 29, 2008.

Thinking back on things, the timing now is perfect.  It would not have been, if he would have asked me earlier. We have taken our time and really know each other, have had a couple of serious arguments, faced some health issues, and worked through some things concerning his elderly (90 year old) mother. We know without a doubt that we can depend on each other in a crisis and celebrate together in times of joy.  

   Anyway, my advice is to take your time and don't stress and worry over a marriage proposal.  If it is to be, it will happen. If not, then you will know that you took your time to find that out and not made a huge mistake by jumping into a marriage before you are both ready.

Answer 5

Enjoy today with him and cherish the relationship you have. He will propose when he is ready and you don't want to pester him because you never know if that is the day he is going to do it. I got mad at my boyfriend for not proposing the Friday before he proposed and felt badly. We dated 6 years, but he was well worth the wait. Yesterday we have been married 2 years and I am so glad it was his decision to be married to me and he picked when.

Answer 6

You cannot push this issue. He has to do it when he feels it is the best time. If he really wants to, he will do it undoubtedly. But, I have seen friends push the issue and ask when when when when and that only pushes a man away. If you guys are in love, you should trust enough that it will go in the marriage direction. Just let it play out on it's own. You can't control everything. Have fun with him and laugh and stuff---then it will happen one day without expectation

Answer 7

Don't break up with him if you truly love each other.

Give him some space and stop asking him  when he will propose to you.  

It will happen when you least expect it.  You may be putting to much pressure on him and scaring him away.

I know its easy to get caught up in marriages with the job you have.  But try to be patient, don't bring it up anymore.  He will ask you ..  

Best of luck.

Answer 8

You should talk with him. "Bill, we've been together for some time now, and I love you and could see you being a part of my future. Is that something that you've thought about?" He's the only one who can tell you if he sees himself marrying you.