He tells me he wants to wait a bit for kids, but..?

Question

when we have s*x, he "finishes off" inside of me. Whenever I ask him about it, he just goes "Oh, I don't know."

What's his deal?

INFO: Been together for over 4yrs.

THANKS IN ADVANCE!

Answer 1

Well, some guys don't think of the consequences (i.e. kids) of having s*x...just like many women dont. So many girls/women come here on YA afraid that they may be pregnant...well if they were so afraid of getting pregnant, then why have s*x? Or why not get on some birth control?

Some guys will let whatever happen, just happen. Then leave the girl with all the responsibility of raising the baby. Just plain sad.

Answer 2

It feels better for him to finish off in you, If he does not want kids then if i were you i would get on birth cont pills God forbid you do get pregnant and he leaves cause he did not want any kids just yet.. Alot of guys dont think about kids and being married when your in the middle of having s*x.

Answer 3

I can't believe you are doing everything to become a single mom!

Answer 4

Becasue when he tells you that he is thinking.When he  fiishes off, he isn't thinking.  

Answer 5

i think that some guys just really like nutting inside of something. the same happened with me and my boyfriend, we wanted to wait to have kids, but he would *** in me a majority of the time, and i liked it too. it's just a caught in the moment thing. it doesn't necessarily means he wants kids.

Answer 6

Hmm, thats easy...he won't get the same "quality" sensation if he isn't in you when he finishes. He's living in the moment, thats the only though in his head!!

Answer 7

He doesn't want the responsibility of kids right now but when he is having s*x he wants to do what feels best. It's a spur of the moment kinda thing. I would have a serious talk with him about kids and either have him agree that he is ready or start to take some responsibility during s*x.

Answer 8

Sounds like he wants a baby to me.......

Answer 9

That's how s*x works for most people, I don't see what the problem is.  If you want him to withdraw, tell him.  He could wear a condom-    

Did you know that your pic looks like Sarah Palin?  

Answer 10

My bet is that it just feels better for him. However, if he was REALLY dead set against not having kids, I don't think he would do that.

I think he's telling you he wants kids but he really KIND OF does. He doesn't want to come right out and say. When you come to him and tell him you're pregnant, I'm certain he will be happy. Maybe worried too, but that's normal. He doesn't want to say he wants kids because when he says that, and something goes wrong, he'll feel like it's his fault for wanting it in the first place. Make sense?

Answer 11

It probably feels better for him to finish inside you.  And so... he's looking for instant gratification.  If he doesn't want to have kids right away, are you on birth control?  Because if you're not and he keeps finishing like that, you're gunna have kids sooner than he wants. :)

Answer 12

He's probably just having mixed emotions about starting a family. Maybe it would be nice to wait....but it wouldn't be the worst thing ever if you just happen to get pregnant. So long as he knows you aren't preventing it, then there shouldn't be any real conflict between you, if you do conceive. Personally, (and I did this), I wouldn't bring up the baby thing anymore at all. Assuming you want one, just let him do what he's been doing, and let nature take its course. Men usually just don't like to feel backed into a corner. Good luck!

Answer 13

Some guys won't admit it outloud that they want kids or are ready....