He thinks we should make it legal, I think we should end it. What do you think?

Question

My boyfriend used to be a really good guy and I thought I loved him. Then he he started hanging out with a bad group of people and he's changed his whole image. It all happened really fast. He started drinking and I'm afraid he might be doing other stuff, too.

We decieded to go on a break and then a few days later I found out I was five weeks pregnant. I told my boyfriend and he freaked out and stormed out of the room. Then he called me back and said he and his parents feel like we should get married asap.

Well my mom thinks I need to get away from him and I agree. His friends have been calling me and telling me how i'm jealous of his life and I just got pregnant on purpose.

I'm only seventeen and I'm 6 weeks pregnant. So...what do you think?

Answer 1

well.. sorry but he sounds like a loser to me.  getting married is not the answer.  just becuase you are pregnant is not a reason to get married, it could possibly only make matters worse.  you are only 17 years old and have your entire life ahead of you and now your baby's too.  if you want to have the baby you should have the baby.  if he does not want to be responsible then thats just tough.  the courts will make him help take care of the baby regardless if you are married or not.  there are actually alot of guys out there that would be better for you and might think that you having a kid is a plus.  id say.... dump the boyfriend, focus on your future and be confident that you will be able to care for your little one without him as your husband.  it sounds like you have the support of your mom and that is the best support that you can have.  dont get married for the wrong reasons.  good luck.

Answer 2

Is there a chance he could change for you, and you'd still love him? But up there you said you THOUGHT you loved him. If he isn't willing to change, why should you take him back? You'd just be married to an irresponsible drunk (sorry to be harsh, friend, sorry)

   Think about that, please. If he won't change, ask your mom or friend to help through your pregancy if you plan to keep it, and good luck!

EDIT: If he won't change, then dump him and look for friends to help you instead!! You don't need that drunk around during your pregnancy =)

Answer 3

I don't think you should get married. If you have any doubts don't go through with it, it doesn't sound like he'd be a very good father for your unborn child. And if he's doing all this he could get you into trouble as well as himself, some people also become abusive when they're drunk or high. I just don't think that would be a home i'd want my kid to grow up in. I say ditch him. Your top priority right now should be yourself and your child, and it seems his is trying to get out of it. I know it will be hard since you are/thought you were in love with him, but it sound like he doesn't want to get married either and it's just his parents' decision. I hope everything turns out okay. :)

Answer 4

Don't marry him just because you're having a baby. Your only seventeen and I'm sure you're already stressed about having a baby. Just tell him you don't want to be with him anymore but you want him to be a part of your baby's life.

Answer 5

i agree with your mom, get away from him and don't worry about it.  you dont want to bring a child into that kind of environment. he needs to grow up and stand and be a mind but you cant make him and having a baby isnt going to make him he has to do that on his own. dont answer the phone when his friends call because you don't need the stress it's bad for you and the baby. being a single parent is hard but if you have a good support system in place such as your mom and friends i think you will be ok, besides any man can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father.   good luck!

Answer 6

don't marry him if you're having second thoughts about it!

then you'll be stuck with him, and you'll realize you REALLY didn't want that!

break it off.

Answer 7

Kick his drunk *** to the curb !!!