He told me.........What should I think about this?

Question

my boyfriend tonight said that if i ever changed (meaning my personality) that he would stop loving me. This kind of stung me because there is a saying that as we grow we change as people.......so i feel like i can't make a move because i dont want him to stop loving me. Should I be hurt at this? Or does he mean right

Answer 1

Guys are funny.  They say things with the love of their whole heart behind it and often times it comes across differently then how they meant it...LOL

I would try to not take this personally.  I think he really means well.  

Answer 2

I think he means he loves you as you are!! And he doesnt want you to change! Naw i would be hurt! His a guy guy say crazy stuff and dont know how to express thier feelings!

Answer 3

he means he loves you and isn't trying to insult you he is saying he loves everything about you

Answer 4

Here's something I once read and I think its really true:

If a guy says something and it's one meaning is hurtful, then he meant the other one!

He's just saying that the thought of you being anyone else would destroy him!  Of course as you change and grow he will still love you!

I think it was a compliment that he meant for the exact moment!

Answer 5

Its understandable...and its why the majority of teenage relationships fail

Its because when you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with who they are, and who they are at that moment is a large part of that.

And because teenagers are still developing and changing and learning so much, they usually grow out of love with each other

You should feel open to changing though.  If its meant to be, you guys will change together and so everything will be good.  But if you need to change, you need to change, and it would be pointless to force yourself to be unhapyp just to keep a relationship that you're not married into.

Answer 6

he loves you right now and thinks your such a amazing person and that he doesn't ever want you to change because your so special to him.

i also would like to talk to you about my friend alex, you answerd me a couple days ago and i want to talk to you about some of these things, you don't have to but i would appreciate it.

thanks and goodluck, it sounds like your boyfriend thinks so much about you just by what he said..

to me its a meening of how much he loves you right now..

im 13..

idk lol.

gl

Answer 7

Sorry Honey this throws up a huge red flag for me-

             He is a control freak!

How long have you been together? How old are you? Has he hit you yet?

Are you sexually involved? If so are you on birth control-cuz if not guys can poke holes in condoms, there for your stuck with him whether you like it or not!

I hope I'm completly wrong, and I wish you the best of luck, but if it was me I would end that relationship, fast! But it's easier from the outside looking in to say I would/wouldn't do this......

                                      Good Luck!!!!

Answer 8

well i saw your other question :S tell him if he can't make time for you and  respect your needs to change, well, then you will stop loving HIM. he is not playing fair.  

Answer 9

I would say don't worry about it. People grow as individuals and as couples - if you worry about his comment and try to stay exactly as you are now chances are he would stop loving you anyways. Just be yourself and if you lose him then he wasn't worth it anyways