He told me he doesnt love me... and he did it by text :( ?

Question

i have been with this guy for nearly 3 years, we have a beautiful little 6month old boy.

We just argued on the phone because of an event that took place last night (i wanted to pop to the shop at 8.00pm, it was raining so i asked him to look after our son and he refused because he was watching tele, i ended up pushing a pram in the rain to the shop, and hes not even sorry about it)

and hes just text me saying he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore and only thinks of me as a friend.

i cant believe it, im an emotional wreck sitting here, im so devestated :'(

someone please tell me there is hope??? what am i going to do

Answer 1

i know you love him but

your obviously worth ten of him even more

you've got your son, he loves you more than anyone and always will

there is hope just give it time

good luck

Answer 2

He's a f'ing coward.   Only a coward of a man breaks up with his woman over a text message after 3 years in a relationship!  I know it hurts, honey, but do you really want this coward in your life?  You need a man who acts like a real MAN.  Real men deal with issues and work them out.  They don't run like little scared rabbits and send text messages.

Answer 3

You're going to bring up your beautiful little boy. He's your future. Your guy is just an immature little kid by the sounds of it and you'll be better off without him. He needs to leave if that's the way he feels because you and your son deserve better.

Don't despair, there is hope. When you are over this k**b-wipe and back on your feet, when you least expect it, you'll meet somebody that is right for you. I threw my husband out a good few years back and after about 7 years of occasional dates but never really meeting the right guy, my Mr Right just appeared from out of the blue. Yours will too, but one things for sure, it's not this guy.

You need to stay strong now for your son's sake so you'll have to pick yourself up and carry on. Don't let this guy bring you down, make your own life and be independent. Be proud of all you have achieved and all that you will achieve. Bring your son up to be confident, honest and respectful and you'll have made him a much better man than his father will ever be.

email me if you want someone to talk to.

Good luck x

Answer 4

As long as you were able to go jump in the car and just take off with him to the clubs, parties and get togeters he was happy to be with you  Now that the respncilbilities of being a parent are on both of you ,, He is upset, less s*x ,, less parties, and no more, just up and go   He is feeling the crunch of being an adult and he is not One ,, so now he thinks he will get another girl that will do these things with him,,,,  So let him go,, but make damned sure you get him for child support   Don't let him walk out with out paying for his child,,,,,,, Good Luck   you will find a real man ,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 5

He is not worthy of you , he doesn't deserve you and he is not mature enough to commit  to you or your innocent son ......I would have to get rid of him fast. Sounds like he can't take responsibility. Get outside professional guidance from a woman's organisation. Start believing in yourself , learn to detach emotionally and mentally from this uncaring man. Get emotional and financial  Independence ...ask your family for support ? Get help from any available source........You deserve better than this. Namaste

Answer 6

NO, ther isn't hope of you having him but there is hope of getting over him.

Men-REAL MEN that is, don't let babys go out in the rain.

I can tell that because of this he isn't interested and it doesn't sound like he's interested in the baby either.

Sorry.

Answer 7

What a pig !!  He wouldn't look after his son for a few minutes ? I don't know why you want him dear,there must be someone much nicer for you and your son..Have a hug xx......................

Answer 8

Maybe he's lost interest in you.......

Answer 9

Tell him that you trusted him and was willing to give him all the love he needed. But now you have a son who will grow rapidly. He has no help but you. You are concerned for your son more than you are concerned for him. You don't want your son to grow up seeing his mum disrespected, belittled and abused. You need some one who can show your son how to be a man.

Your son needs his home to feel safe and happy. A place to come home to when life treats him unfairly.

He needs to see high standards of discipline and moral values in the home.

Your guy needs to go back to his mother so she can finish the job.

There's so much more in life. Don't miss out.

Answer 10

Hey Gorgeous!

Welll firstly aww thats soo cute you have a cute little 6 month year old boy :)

2ndly i think no offence this guy u are with i think he is sucha bad person! he should take responsibilty and be a father! when you told him to look after your son he ignored your son for what a television programme? is that all your child is worth? a tv serial is more interesting or facinating to watch then take care of ur own child whom you both have produced with love? or was that lust?

i think u should tell ur boyfriend to get married to you and take responsibility for his actions, he cant just lose interest in you like that and tell you that u are just a friend? what does he take u as? he cannot just abandon you and your son half way.

if i was you id make sure he stays with your child, or if not tell him to leave your house, you dont want him increasing your electricity bill watching tele all that do you? he is sucha looser, i really feel for you in this sitaution sweetheart, also your child is 6 months it could have a negative effect on his mind seeing this kind of rebelious attitude from his father, tell the man to either do 1 or take responsiblity, ask your parents to help you take care of your child or your mates? or if not then move on, get someone better, i know you love him and it is really hard for you but this guy isnt worth it, he is just a user, he used you for 3 years and now suddenly u are just mates? so what is this kid a symbol of!! ur friendship? its disgusting what he has done to you. leave him or tell him to change and take responsibilty,

hope i helped sweetheart,

best of luck!!!

i love you loads, and am always here if u need anything =)

mwa xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx...

xxxsarahxxx

Answer 11

It might be that he has someone else!!! because if y'all been together for like 3 year and y'all have a baby he is just being a ***** and he sure don't care about you because he could care less how you felt so drop that *****

Answer 12

I'm sorry that this has happened, after 3 years of having a relationship and then having a baby together, it's completely insensitive and wrong of him to tell you that by text. It's a shock, but you can get through it.

You've just had an argument so he may be saying that cuz he's angry. Either way, it is really worth giving yourself and him sometime to calm down and think about things, and then talk to him to find out what has made him feel that way. Maybe it's something that you can both work on and it can help your relationship to grow. Focus on your little boy to help you get through this. I hope this helps  

Answer 13

He sounds very selfish (sorry) and you sound like you're better off, but this is not what you want to hear. Does he ever lash out when you have had an argument? I mean, does he say anything to intentionally upset you? Some people do this when they're angry and they say things they don't mean. Maybe he feels guilty about last night and doesn't like the feeling, so is lashing out at you instead? Or maybe he doesn't actually care about it and hated you bringing it up?

The fact he did it by text just after your argument leads me to think this, but there could be many other explanations. If he is indeed feeling this way, then he has taken the coward's way out by texting you. If that is the case, would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that?

Anyway, I really hope you get things sorted.:-)

Answer 14

He is a coward.     And a cruel one.

Answer 15

What a jerk!  And he wants to be "friends".  He's no friend to begin with.  There is hope - without him.

Answer 16

Find alternative accommodation ,leave him,never ,never go back to him.What a selfish uncaring twallop he is,may his vest ride up and choke him.

Answer 17

You two obviously more serious problems than just a question of babysitting.  You need to stop fussing about the details, and take a hard look about what is really going with the relationship.  Why is it that he no longer feels the same?  What was it that killed the romance?  Is it something fundamental (like values), or something fixable (like making more time for each other)?

Tell him that breaking up with you over text was immature and cowardly, so he owes it to you to at least have a frank face-to-face discussion about this.  See if this is something you can work through together, or a real parting of the ways.  Remind him that regardless of how he feels about you, he is financially and emotionally responsible for his son.

Answer 18

what an ******. Get the h**l out of there and let some other sucker be his woman. Wait until you are calm and then get some cold, hard revenge, nothing really nasty but something that'll make you feel so much better.

Answer 19

court, child support, kick him out or leave, either way dump the looser. you are going to go on with your life without him in it. He suckered you into having his kid, now he can go sucker some one else.