He wants full custody?

Question

I have a seven month old, the father and i split before he was born but he is named on b/c.

We arranged for him to have him 2 days a week, but the past few months he didn't want him until 9pm on a weekend, which i think its to late to be taken a baby out, i have talked to him about it but it get me no where, he says that he can have him when he wants and if i do agree this is what he is going to do. I am a good mam, i think that children should have both mams and dads but what can i do! please help thanks.

Answer 1

first off, this guy sounds like a major doush bag. 9 pm is too late to be keeping a 7 month old out. by doing this he is showing his lack of matuarity and respect for you and your son. he is ignoring his son's needs (his need to SLEEP). he CANNOT  get full custody from you! dont worry about that. yes, a baby should have both parents but not if one of the parents is unhealthy for the child. he needs to grow up. lay down the law, if he cant see his kid during waking hours, then thats his problem...good luck and be strong!

Answer 2

Be careful.

If he REALLY wanted to spend time with the baby then he would want him in the morning (or early sat if he works friday). Not that late at night. You are the one putting in all the hard work raising the child you have a say in what happens. If it's cold where you live set a time limit for his daddy to pick him up. Young children shouldn't be out that late in the cold night air.

Ask him "Why do you only want him after 9pm? Why not spend the DAY with him?"

Sorry but things sound a little fishy. He's not respecting you or your decisions as the Mummy.

I agree that kids should have both parents but only if they're both beneficial to the child's welfare. If it's doing the child more harm than good then the child is better off  not having the negative influences of the bad parent. They only have selfish intentions.

Answer 3

I am in the same situation as yourself, my little boy is 2 on sunday and his dad hasnt had anything to do with him for over a year, no christmas or easter presents and wants to see him when he wants. You should tell him you want 2 set days and time, but i've tried it and got nowhere.

You only want whats best for you baby and he should want the same,  hope things go well!

Answer 4

No way let him have yr boy at 9pm on the weekend, who in their right mind would say thats a reasonable time for a 7 month old baby to go out of their home to their fathers house!! I'm a single mum and i agreed with his dad from the start the times and days he would have him, he has never veered from these times.  Yr sons father does not have a leg to stand on in court. He may be on the birth certificate but unless you were married he has no rights. You need to set him straight and put your foot down. If he cares about his son then he can come round during the week or weekend when it suits you. Do not let him bully you. It will be a cold day in h**l before that man can take your child from you. But in the meantime obviously you want things to be amicable for your child, try and compromise on his visits, but you are in charge and what you say goes. dont forget that!!!

Answer 5

Go file for custody your self fast , then tell the judge you want him to see his father but at a reasonble time of the day he will need to be pick up and brought back , then the judge will order it and you will have no problems, Thats what I did... good luck...

Answer 6

have a legal custody arrangement set up. thats really the only thing you can do and have it really stick. so that way he and you know what days the baby is where.

Answer 7

you NEED to get the custody arrangements formalized in court where you specify "pickup between x am and y pm" and avoiding scheduled nap times and when the baby is to be returned and what conditions you can impose (ie, you can't say "your girlfriend can't be there" unless she is a serious concern, ie drugs, reckless behaviour, or violence, but you can say "there is to be no smoknig around the baby because he gets sick").

if he resists, then although you want the best for your child, it's just not true that "a bad dad is better than no dad".