He wants to marry me! what do I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up last week. Due to disrespect issues, cheating and lies. Anyhow, we have both made many mistakes. We were together 5yrs off and on. We both love eachother and its obvious because we can be away from eachother. However, we broke up and this time wants me back but wants to get marrried to me asap this weekend......he said he loves me and by marrying me he would feel secure about us. But im confused! does he love me and maybe by us getting married things will change and make us feel secured about eachother? or should I walk away and never look back to that relationship that can not be.......HE JUST ASK ME RIGHT NOW ITS EITHER I MARRY HIM OR HE IS OUT FOREVER...HE SAID HE IS TIRED OF THE OFF AND ON THING AND WOULD LOVE TO BE MARRIED TO ME..IM CONFUSED............WHAT SHOULD I DO OR THINK?

Answer 1

If you really wanted to marry him, you wouldn't be so confused.  You wouldn't even have to think about it.

Answer 2

If you don't know, if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with this man, let him go. Don't get married just because someone asks you.

By the way, which of you was lying and cheating?

Answer 3

If You Were On & Off For 5 Years, Then That Proves That Together You Weren't Strong Enough For A Relationship.

If You Are Confused About Getting Married, You Simply Shouldn't Do It.

If Your Asking These Kinds Of Questions, You Shouldn't Get Married Anyway.

Answer 4

Absolutely do NOT marry him. What kind of a*****e proposes in the form of an ultimatum? Marriage does not fix things. People do not change. If he cheated and disrespected before your marriage, he will cheat and disrespect you after. You deserve a LOT better than this. Kick his *** to the curb, NOW.

Answer 5

Time to say good bye.

Marriage is for love not part of some ultimatum. Marry me or else, no thats not how it works.

You will find someone nice eventually. And remember there can be no marriage without total tryst and commitment. Just because you are married now would not mean he would stop treating you bad.

Time to move on girlie!

Good luck

Answer 6

getting married wont make the relationship better..

Answer 7

My vote is out forever.

Marrying at such short notice just to prove something is never a good idea.  Love and wanting to be together aren't enough.  The two of you haven't figured out how to have a relationship with each other.  Maybe you never will.

Either way, do NOT marry him this weekend.  That is an accident looking for a place to happen.

Answer 8

You need to tell him that you can't marry him, until he agrees that his lying, and cheating is over. And don't let him pressure you into anything. He's going to rush it, then you need to think twice about marrying him.

Answer 9

Getting married won't change your situation, in fact it might make it worse.  You should tell him you need time to plan your marriage, maybe a year, and see how things go.  If things have changed in a years time, then don't proceed with the wedding.  You don't want to rush into things at this point.  And if he still has a problem after hearing your explanation, then you still have disrespect issues.  

Maybe try counseling.

Best wishes to you.

Answer 10

Wow if the relationship wasn't working before it really won't work after you get married.  Marriage don't make it better most of the time it makes it worse.  But five years is a long time to be together too and to just break up and let it go, maybe you can work things out, who knows but you have to be sure you want to get married, don't let anyone rush you into that if you don't want it.

Answer 11

i think you should leave and never look back. on and off relationships are bad, and so undependable. Maybe he asked you to marry him b/c he feels like a jerk for the c**p he's put you though, but just b/c you get married doesnt mean it will stop

Answer 12

Marriage is trust and commitment between two people for a lifetime, from your question it seems that you both have issues with these. It's better to wait and be sure then to rush into something you might regret.

Answer 13

A guy who cheats, then gives an ultimatum?  Wow.  I think you should call his bluff.  Say no, and move on.

Answer 14

don't do it!!! getting married won't solve your underlying relationship problems

suggest couples counseling and if you both complete it successfully then you'll agree to marry him (only if you want to)

Answer 15

I wouldn't marry him.  It doesn't sound like a stable relationship for either of you.  It isn't a good relationship if it was on and off and not steady.  You probably do care about each other.  He wants to marry you asap because he thinks that if you are married that you won't cheat with each other or be disrespectful to each other anymore but it is who you both are.  Whether you marry or not you will still treat each other this way because you can't change people.  I wouldn't marry him.  I would move on and hopefully you will both learn from your mistakes and not repeat them with someone else.  Also you don't want to marry him with the ultimatum that you marry him or else.

Answer 16

On and off relationship's are bad

don't marry him

Answer 17

Im sorry hun but its time to say goodbye. This sounds just like a friend of mines situation. he cheated on her twice and after the second time they were broken up for a while and got together, he proposed and cheated again. you know what they say once a cheater always a cheater.  marriage is something very serious and often times it dosent change anthing with the way he acts.

Answer 18

cheat on him lol