Heartbroken and don't understand why?

Question

I had been dating my boyfriend for a year we moved to another state and lived together... we had our ups and down as people say but there was a lot of love there... 3 weeks ago we went on a trip is was really bad we fought and he hit me.. soooooooo out of charcter for him, so i really don't hold it against him... well he moved to a friends house and I stayed in the apt... 2 weeks into the break up he slep with a married co worker who i guess he had a crush on.. i was upset, then last weekend he came over and acted like he was starting to come around again but then said it was a mistake.. he has hurt me so bad and I have been so very understanding... I am not in the apt anymore he packed up my stuff and put in the garage i am staying in a hotel right now I have no friends yet being new to the area... I am sooo scared why am I being punished for things he did and why does he hate me so much is it guilt or does he really not care about me please help please.. i still love him and miss hiim lots

Answer 1

you moved away and now his real character is coming out please don't take him back or this is what will keep happening he hit you i bet he is begging forgiveness saying he will never do it again but he will i can guarantee. it is not your fault and don't ever for one minute believe it is you must be feeling so hurt and lonely do you have to stay in the place you moved? maybe consider going back ALONE i know the pain you are feeling it is unbelievably painful but that will fade in time i know your thinking he is the only one who can ease the pain you are currently feeling but its best to let him go now because if you let him back the pain you feel will be back in time over and over please have the courage to walk away YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER AND HIS LOSS WILL BE SOMEONE ELSE'S GAIN be strong sweetheart x

Answer 2

If he hit you, then he doesn't care enough. Even if he loves you, and it is not normal for him to hit you, it's not something you should put up with.

He probably feels guilty for what he did. He also probably knows that once he did it, he won't be able to stop.

You need to realize that just ONE strike is abuse. If you really want to be with him that badly, you need to make a life decision.

"I am going to spend my life with an abusive person. I cannot complain when I am hit, and I can never EVER have children."