Hello, I'm a little confused as what to do with some guys :/?

Question

Okay, so here it goes, ive been going out with this guy for 8 almost 9 months....and hes hardly ever around, and hes fixing to go into the army. Then theres this other guy i like, and we kinda started dating, so in other words im kinda cheating, and i dont know how to fix what ive started or how/what to tell the other 2nd guy. I really love the 1st guy :/ and i cant believe i did this, i really wish i could go back and change it, but ive made my mistakes and i dont know what to tell/do at the moment, im just really confused. and how am i suposed to tell the 2nd guy to get lost?!? :/ please! please! help :(

Answer 1

Whatever you do, please do not send the first guy a dear john letter when he's at basic training.  

Answer 2

ouch you got yourself into a pickle there.

what to do is just come clean its hard and it might be for a while but everything will mellow out and in the end. but ask them if you can still be friends if they both breakup with you (being the worst case scenario)

Answer 3

Just tell the 2nd guy that you can't do this right now and you need space and time to figure things out then learn to forgive yourself first for this mistake and try and move closer to the 1st guy, whom you love.

As long as you realise that you have made a mistake and it is him you love then he doesn't have to know because you will only end up hurting him when it's the last thing you want to do.

Start talking about how you feel and about wanting to reconnect to him and hopefully your relationship will improve and if not at least you know you tried very hard.

Remember everyone makes mistakes but you have to let it go as a mistake and try to do better from then on, it's how humans learn, live and love.

All the best!