Hello would you ever have a baby for someone who cant have children?

Question

When i was younger my sisters and i used to talk about it,and they asked me if i would have a baby for them if they couldnt have kids,I always said yes and i stick to my word to this day,my sisters were honest and said they couldnt it would be to much to give a baby away after having it even though i was there sister,what do yous think do you think yous could do it for someone,thankyous for your answers.

Answer 1

i wouldnt do it if it was my own but if i was just to be the person that was carrying the baby then i would be fine cause it not my own i was only carrying it but only for my 2 sisters i would do it then im around there life still

Answer 2

I dont think i could after carrying the baby for 9 months you would become so attached x

Answer 3

Pregnancy and birth are not easy as people seem to think!

Caesarians, tears, complications and some people die while giving birth .

I wouldn't for the above reasons and because I really enjoyed my pregnancy! whats the point of going through all that if you have no baby at the end? I s'pose a part of me would want to but  I would have to give it careful consideration if someone close asked me but I reckon it would still be no...

I would just look at my babys face and I just know I couldn't do it!

Anyone watching Hollyoaks? the Jacquie and Tony story!

Answer 4

only for a loved one/

Answer 5

Although I would love to do it for someone very close to me in reality I would find it so hard to go through with it.  I had a little boy 3 weeks ago and the thought of carrying him for 9 months and then having to give him up is unbearable.  I think if you find pregnancy easy and enjoy it then go for it, but I don't like being pregnant so every child I have is (literally!) a labour of love.

Answer 6

After having my first Daughter which was an easy pregnancy and fairly easy birth ,  I would have said I would have a baby for someone who couldnt.

Since then I have suffered a miscarriage on 2/7/08 and do not believe I would still be able to do this in case there was complications .

I would donate my egggs still though to someone who couldnt produce their own .

Answer 7

I think it would be a hard decision, i would make sure i would of already had all the children i wanted myself. I probably wouldn't do it for some stranger, but for a relative yes.

Answer 8

If I had never had a baby, I would prolly have said yes I could do it, because it would be for my family, I would always get to see the lil one and all...

Now that I have a son, and I felt a life grow inside me, and I have the battle scars of pregnancy (stretchmarks, stitches in the crotch) I could never give up a child...to anyone, no matter how close I am to that person....it would be like losing part of me...part of my soul...

Answer 9

I think so.

I know the belief is that when you've just given birth and the baby is placed in another person's arms you would instantly be overcome by your motherly instincts but if you were going to be realted to the child during its life anyway then I think it wouldn't be an issue.

I'd do it for family or for a close friend. Doing it for strangers who'd then want to never hear from you again wouldn't be the same though. Not to say I'd want involvement but I'd like to be an aunt or something.

Answer 10

I could do it for a stranger, but not a family member...I couldn't watch it grow up...it would kill me!

Answer 11

no, i probably wouldn't do it.

not because i am cold, but because my love for the child that is not mine but seems like mine will be too strong.

Answer 12

My husband (now ex) and I talked about it once...we were going to for my husband's best friend and his wife..we didn't want any more, so we figured what the heck...it never panned out though, we never brought it up, they ended up adopting.

Answer 13

i would defiantly do it!  for someone that i know.  i have four children of my own and two step-daughters and if someone that i know could not have children i would want to give them that gift.  i know how amazing it is to have children and i would hate to see someone that i care about not be able to experience it.  i couldn't not do it because i was scared i would get to attached.  to me that is me being very selfish and i don't like to think of myself as selfish.  it would be hard to give the baby up but i would willingly knowing that it is going to a loving warm grateful happy family and i would be able to see that family grow and still have contact with the child even if it is from an "Auntie" point of view.

Answer 14

I have had the same conversation with my sisters and we always said that we would do it for each other. However we would only do it if it was our own egg in the others womb.

I have been through a bit recently and this was actually considered, but I think if it came down to it I could only ask my sister to have a baby for me if she was 'finished' with her own family.

I know that I could do it too if I could cos I know what its like to think you can't have children and if you can give your sister the gift of a child that would be brilliant.

Anyway, lets hope it doesn't come to that for me or you.

Answer 15

If for some reason my sister couldn't have kids then yes by all means I would that for her, but she is the only one that I do that for.

Answer 16

in a situation where your carrying it for a relative or friend yes..but for a complete stranger, probably not because youre gonna get attached to the baby and that can cause problems. but if youre carrying it for someone you know, you can see the baby regulary and know that you helped out someone you cared for.

Answer 17

I would...

Answer 18

I used to say i would, before i had children. However now i have actually experianced pregnancy and labour i know there is absolutley no way i could hand the baby over. I would be too attatched to the baby after everything.

I think women who can do this are amazing.

Answer 19

Yes I have agreed to do it for my best friend in a year or so (when I have recovered from my pregnancy)

Answer 20

id do it- i love being pregnant. it would be a little hard not to have a baby at the end but that is ok

Answer 21

the only person i could do it for would be my younger brother or someone that means that much to me. I would have to have had my own children first tho i think.x