Help, How do I stop people from always making rude comments?

Question

Hello everyone,

I recently moved to a new area so this might make things worse for me I am 21 yet feel like I am being bullied at school. I love working out and especially swimming this is my obsession.I am being verbally abused at the gym , not directly but you know when people say things loudly so that you can hear it. While i was swimming some girl was saying to her boyfriend how she wanted to beat my ***. And others just rate me or berate me whatever you want to say, I am non confrontational but would like to put an end to this.

Answer 1

Wow. Talk about hostility, them not you. You could speak to management at the gym and see if maybe they can put up a sign or something that mentions about proper gym etiquette. I would ignore it in the meantime as much as you can. It should get easier with some practice to put a deaf ear to those morons. Obviously they are jealous or not sure what to do or didn't come to the gym to work out (imagine that).  

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your troubles but you can't change other people!

so just ignore them and don't waste your time trying to!

it does suck but once you come above that they will leave you alone!  No not over night.. but in time!

Answer 3

It's very difficult to do, but you MUST make out you haven't heard a thing from them.  (Ignore in other words).

Answer 4

You can't control other people's actions but what to do when someone is hurting you? I would try my very best to tune it out and stay away from these hostile people. Maybe you could even wear earplugs when swimming and listening to music while working out. I hesitate to advise you to confront these strangely aggressive people. They are making such violent comments about you that it seems like they are looking for an excuse to start something worse with you. If it continues, maybe you should consider talking to a staff member at the gym and asking for intervention. Another suggestion is to bring a friend when at all possible. Bullies are much less likely to pick on someone who isn't alone. I wish you luck with this problem. It seems like an uncomfortable and painful situation.  

Answer 5

Well i work out too and all id have to do is show em my muscles and laugh and point at the,. Jus forget the comments, u cant control what they say. They just want a reaction, dont let em have it

Answer 6

just brush it off, if you respond to comments like that youre giving them exactly what they want. youre much better than the girls that do stuff like that, they need to go back to high school.

Answer 7

Tell them to stop, and if they get in your face, wait for them to push you or something, and then just beat the c**p out of them. They'll stop once they get some sense beaten into them. It's the only way to solve c**p like this these days, unfortunately. I speak from many times experience.

Answer 8

You have the right to enjoy the facilities in the gym without this kind of c**p.  Report it to a member of staff or whoever owns the gym.  If you are being bullied at school?  Then report it to one of the teachers and demand something is done about it, the same goes for the gym.

Answer 9

YOur just new, things will be better as time goes by. Just ignore them for now and act casual.

Answer 10

awww this sucks...i get this too whenever i go to a gym or whatever...i know it's hard but it really is best to ignore their remarks, they're probably just jealous of you and want a reaction, don't give them what they want...

if this doesn't stop after trying that, then next time one of those cowards say something within your earshot that you know is directed at you...you could say something sarcastic in a nice tone like "awww you poor thing you must be very unhappy with yourself if you need to watch me so closely"...i've found that this works, but if they continue to harrass you then have a word with a member of staff about it, you have every right to be there just as they do...

hope this helps...hopefully ignoring them will be all you need to do though...good luck :)

Answer 11

1. IGNORE

2. Think before you speak.

Answer 12

just ignore them and act like you don't care where there saying just do your best working out and swimming.. just show them up there most likely jealous

Answer 13

Wear a bikini bottom that says "dont b jealous cuz i'v got more zest in life" or.."i bet ur gonna comment on me now"..or..."jealous talker shut it!"

lol...u prbbly might not b able to get these exacts words in bikini stores but u can get them printed.

They r provocative..but then again it lets those arses know u can hear them and that u wil stick up for urself if they dare to provoke u further.

Answer 14

You cannot control others, only yourself. If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. Besides, the chlorine content of public pools can be rather harmful.

Answer 15

what ever you do dont try and be someone your not and just think things over before you say them hope this helps  

Answer 16

Wear headphones and put them on blast.

If not just ignore it, I get made fun of all the time at school, at the gym whereever.

I mean I'm goth and sorta fat so its a double whammy, you just have to understand that the people talking bad about must have nothing better to do and are losers themselves.