Help, I could use some comforting words right about now :(

Question

I was in heaven right now or (what I really wish) that I could win lots of money in contest so I can move out of my parents' house, out of my neighborhood, & finally have some peace. Its just I feel so many bad things keep happening around my family that I don’t think I can take it anymore. Some of my family members have problems, some are ill in the hospital, and others have sadly passed away. Therefore, I want my own house so I can live single & alone (or at least share my house with my cousin whom I am close to) because my room isn’t helping. Other times I just wish I were in heaven that way I’ll never how to worry about any thing bad anymore. No, I’m not suicidal. There's no use in telling my folks about how I feel, because what's that gonna do? Its definitely won't change anything. :(

Answer 1

Everyone goes through difficult problems in their life, and always want that one place to escape and live in peace serenity. If telling your family face to face is really something you think won't work, give it a try with a letter, if you want to leave. Atleast then they'll understand, and if they truly cared about you I think they would take into consideration your feelings, and maybe want to help. No matter what, thinks will work out, it's just your facing one the most difficult times in your life. Think of it like, this is the hard part in you life time, and once you over come it... it will make you realize.. "If I went through this, I can do anything." This whole ordeal, can motivate you and bring positives if you just stay optimistic.  

Answer 2

I feel you and unfortunately words of comfort is what we are all going the need in the next year or so, economy wise. Trust me when I tell you that your family is not the only one going through really hard times right now. I am 38 with four kids ( two girls 16 and 15 and two boys 13 and 10) and a husband and sometimes I feel like you like  you just wanna block your ears and not hear people complaining about life and how tough it is right now for everyone. Often wish I could cocoon myself  during hard times but you really can't you have to face them head on and live your life and realize that when things are bad  they can only get better. I feel where you are coming from I really do in the past three years- my sister husband died from colon cancer 3 days before their 25 wedding anniversary and a day after his 44 birthday (they have 4 kids as well who are now 26, 24 and 22 years old twins). on his death bed knowing he was going to die he called and ordered 25 white rose to be delivered on anniversary that was an amazing man. imagine my sisters surprise and sorrow that day when the doorbell rang and a delivery guy delivered then along with a letter he dictated to a nurse and she wrote for him it was the most amazing letter too. My ex husband had colon cancer and is now thank God in remission. I am a nurse for terminally ill cancer patients every day and you would think I would be able to cope with the death of my brother in law better and my husbands diagnosis better very wrong think it was worse cause I knew what to expect. every fifth house in the town I live in mass is for sale due to economy family after family getting foreclosed on I thank God every day my husband and I worked hard and paid our mortgage off  early.  but now I worry about daughter who will go to college next year and the one two years after that.

well anyway enough rambling just wanted you to know everyone is going through this right now. times are tough for a lot of families not just yours. when life gets to be too much and I really need to regroup I got to www.joycemeyers.org she is a wonderful women and speaker someone told me about and it has changed my life and I realize everything happens for a reason. she has a show called enjoying everyday life, they talk about so many issue from finances, to how to be happy in any situation, family, marriage, forgetting  your past ( she was servrely sexually abuse growning up by her dad) you can watch all her shows online and pick the topic you want or one you missed. she will help you she will.

one thing I have learned in my life is God never ever gives us more than we can handle. You do not want to be in heaven yet cause he still has something amazing for you to accomplish here on earth. feel free to email me when you just want an impartial ear. great listener, and as you can see I love talking lol or typing in this case.

Answer 3

if you want your own place so bad why don't you

GET A JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... SAVE YOUR MONEY AND THEN MOVE OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

why do you pray for a windfall of money so you can move, do it on your own, that is what being a grown up is all about!!!  if you don't like it at home, move out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

It'll be okay my friend.  You're still young and you have your whole life ahead of you still.  If you can't move out on your own any time soon, then my suggestion would be to keep a journal - write down your most intimate thoughts so you can see what's going on in your mind (for your eyes only).  This way, although you can't physically leave, you can escape in your mind.  :)

Answer 5

Sounds like you need a vacation. Expeeediaaaaa!!! .COM!!!

Answer 6

Leaving or being alone will not solve your problem. You have to face your problem like a real man/woman. You should always remember that God doesn't give us problems we can't solve.

Answer 7

Life is hard. It's a constant struggle, and i know it may be hard to think.. but other people do have it worse. You have to be strong and realize that after ever storm, there is sunshine. Going through these tough times make you appreciate the beautiful things in life. Everyone goes through hard times in their life.. but you can't give up or run away from them. You gotta see them through to the end. No one said life would be easy, but the bad makes you appreciate the good. And that's the truth.

Answer 8

Well if you have a job then just work until you can pay for an apartment. Trust me I am going through alot too. But since my parents are keeping me out of the middle Im going to be okay.

Answer 9

Having family problems has been an common issue over those years ;Researchers has found that there is no such a thing called " family without problems" , so you have to calm down and you must know that we all have those problems .

I won't prefer you to leave the house , you shouldn't just escape and run away , you must face this problem , you should deal with it , you should try your best to get over it , it will not kill you .. it will only make you stronger ! .

The best way to deal with problems is to fight it , because when you fight your problem and try to make it get better , you'll grow stronger .. so whenever problems come , you know well how to treat it ! .

Its true that you'll go through hard times those weeks ! but you have to know that it will pass , and everything's gonna be alright sooner or later .

You'll get amazed how life will turn for better .. nights can be so long , but after all the dawn will break through and you will be happy again .

May God Bless you and help you ! , you can talk to him .. you might feel better .

Answer 10

You can only be a solution to a problem or a part of a problem, decide which you are. Don't sound like you have a solution, then stop being a part of. Communicate only what you have to with the family. let them deal with their problems. It's not your place to worry about or try to fix..

Answer 11

your 21 so ur a adult now so save up some money for a apartment or something and move out

Answer 12

you have to be strong because there is a reason for everything in life. do what you can to help your family but otherwise just dont worry about bad things because God knows what he whats you to do with your life and he will guide you through the tough times and why worry about things that might not even happen? youll be ok dont worry. :)

Answer 13

Go on a vacation.  Take some time to yourself.  You will be healthier when you return.  Maybe then you can deal with some of the stresses going on around you.  You'll never change anyone.  But, you can work on yourself and enjoy some free time.

Answer 14

OH SWEETIE, YOU NEED TO PRAY, GIVE IT TO THE LORD! HE WILL LISTEN AND HEAR YOUR CRY FOR HELP. HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN CHANGE THINGS IN OUR LIVES TRUST ME I AM IN A SITUATION THAT I SOMETIMES FEEL LIKE JUST GIVING UP BUT JESUS IS THERE NEVER TO LEAVE ME ALONE, AND HE IS THERE FOR YOU TOO. TURN TO HIM... GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO HELP YOU... LET HIM LOVE YOU HE IS WAITING FOR YOU TO TURN TO HIM AND GIVE YOUR PROBLEMS AND YOUR FAMILY'S PROBLEMS OVER TO HIM.

I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TOO!

LIFE IS NEVER EASY BUT WITH JESUS WE ARE NEVER ALONE.

TRUST IN HIM AND LET HIM HELP YOU LET HIM WALK WITH YOU AND LEAD YOU IN THE DIRECTION YOU SHOULD GO.

GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK

THINGS WILL GET BETTER.

Answer 15

Well, I'm sorry we can't help you have to talk to your parents and tell them want to i mean i need to move out come on think about it are you going to live with them for the rest of your/their life

Answer 16

I know how you feel.  I can't deal with all the c**p anymore. It just keeps piling up and won't go away. and no matter how hard I work it's never enough. There are ways to find help.  My area has a local help line that is toll free.  Plus I found a free clinic w/ state funding so I can get counseling.  It helps to have someone to talk to.  Look on the internet or in the phone book for a helpline - It really is great to have someone disconnected from your life listen to you.

Answer 17

Save some money.. and move out.. Also you can go talk to a counsler, maybe they can help you out..

Answer 18

Well, you are 21 now and you are an adult. Sorry but this is part of being an adult. There are bad things that do happen. But there are a share of good things too. They will come later.

This will pass and you will feel better. There was another question on here that asked what are some words of wisdom that were shared with you by your elders. Well, my dad always says these things to me and they are so true: "Don't worry about things you can't control." and "Things always work out in the end."

You can't control death or illnesses. Its a part of life and nature. It has to happen. Its sad, and you'll miss your relatives, but its a part of life and accepting this fact is a part of adulthood.

Things will work out for you. Things will get better. The universe can not function with an imbalance. When something bad happens, there will be something good that will happen to counter that.

Welcome to the real world. It sucks. ((((hugs))))

Answer 19

Check out jobs like live in nannys that provide a job and a place to stay.

Also social services provide temporary services to help.

Prayer helps, but God helps those who help themselves.

God does not rain houses out of the sky.

You can do it!  The first step is to make a plan on how to accomplish your goal.  You seem to be working on that plan.

Hang in there.  Keep working toward your goal and you will reach it.