Help, I feel purposeless...?

Question

I focused my life on education. I tried my hardest and got into the best school with great grades and an planning on going to a great college. I work very hard and have small time for play. The trouble is, I don't know what I even want to do with my life. I don't know who I want to be in the world. I don't relate with people my age, only those a few years older who are usually male. I feel like I spent too much time learning and not enough building relationships. I'm starting to wish I went to a public school and failed and acted out, at least then I'd be 'normal' and experience more things. I feel unimportant and I don't have many people to help me. What should I do?

Answer 1

it's not a simple thing but start reaching out...join a club, make connections and then work at maintaining them. you haven't started college so it sounds as if you are very young still. All that is holding you back is yourself. There are many out there just like you..but you have to push past some personal comfort zones.

there's  a saying and it reads:

Find an edge and visit it often.

You can do it if you use "baby steps"

Answer 2

enjoy life. watch "The bucket list" and all will be answered

Answer 3

You know, it's a good thing that you did well in school and got into the best schools. Be proud of that because a lot of people would do anything to have that.

But that being said, I understand what you're going through. I have never been able to relate to people my own age. Even now, all my friends are older than me and I well...most of my friends are intellectuals. I remember when I was in high school, I'd always feel so alone because the people around me didn't think like me. They never seemed all that interested in what I had to offer. It's only when I got older that I started to make friends that I could relate to.

You say that you don't know what you want to do and that you don't know who you want to be. Well...I think your answer is in this comment. You have to find who you are. And that's where it all begins. You've put a lot of time and energy doing all this school work, working really hard for grades to get into good schools. Maybe it's time for you to allow yourself to have some fun and to find yourself. I think once you do this, you'll have more of an idea where you belong and what you want to do with your life.

Don't neglect the real you. Grades are important, but they don't define who you are.

I don't know if this will help but I hope it does...

Answer 4

So I'm reading a couple things here. First, you don't know what you want to do with your life. Well, you're in high school, so that's normal. But it's not too early to start exploring, and doing that may help give you some motivation to keep studying. Ask your guidance counselor at school what they have in terms of career interest surveys and tests. These help match the things you like and are good at with possible careers. You don't need to know 100% what you want to do when you get out of school, but it helps to get some direction. And since most careers require a college education, you are definitely doing the right things studying to learn and get into college.

Second, it sounds like you don't have a lot of solid relationships with people your age. While I do think that studying is important, you do want to balance school and social life. Relationships are very important, too, as we go through life. One way joining some school clubs or groups outside school that give you some social interaction. Choose activities that you enjoy so that you will have something in common with the people whom you meet. Maybe consider volunteering  (this may help give you a sense of purpose, too) doing something you like. You may have to push your boundaries a little and get out of your comfort zone, but that helps us grow. And colleges like seeing activities outside the classroom, too. Good luck!

Answer 5

You don't need to have all the answers now. Many people don't know what they want to be in life until well after college, in fact the average liberal arts major changes career (not job, but career) 8 times in their life. Also, many of the people who do know what they want to be turn out to be wrong, and this can be really bad (big investment to become certain things).

I'd say you should focus on keeping doors open, not making decisions. I became a neuroscientist studying things I didn't know at all about until I was in my mid 20s. I couldn't have known I was into neuroscience in high school, because I didn't have any exposure to it (same was actually true for college).

Answer 6

You will find a purpose eventually even if you don't have one now. Your future is in your hands. Do what you feel like doing to make yourself happy, I don't know what more to say.

Answer 7

Have you heard other people saying anything  about you? There's nothing wrong with you.. In fact, you are in good character!

you'll never know then, You have inspired other youth at your age.

We human being live and walk in faith, faith that purpose will find our ways.. Nobody reveal that purpose to anyone of us, unless the purpose has already been accomplished.