Help, bf cheated, but idk what to do :(?

Question

KK, i had a bf for a yr and 4 months, he was my first bf ever, we nvr had s*x though b/c im only 16 and dont wanna be a sl*t, and he said he was fine he could wait. and things were great. during our relationship sumtime i made him coupons for one free kiss and one free hug just to be cute♥. and i said that he could use em wenever, even after, if we ever, broke up. But towards the end of the1yr and 3rd month we argued alot, so we broke up just till we matured and stopped arguing, and then we would get bk together, b/c we nvr stopped loving eachother. and we agreed to tell eachother if we found sumone new. we meant to not hug and kiss and stuff but we ended up hugging and kissing even though we werent technically together, we still acting like it 100% by saying i love you and stuff. Well then summer of 08 this gurl came from outta state, that he met at camp in the summa of 07, to come see him b4 she went into marine corps bootcamp. They ended up stayin 4 days 5 nights in a hotel togther and having s*x, they are dating now. he nvr told me his friend did. so then i was madddd at him and accused him of cheating on me b/c he nvr told me and tech i considered us still together. So do you think he cheated. and now he rlly misses me and says he is srry and cried and sh**. we tlk sumtimes and see eachother at parties, we have mutaul frands, and now he wants to cash in those coupons. and he is even willing to cheat on his gf for me.....but idk. like i gave him my wrd about the coupons BUT i nvr thought he would betray me like that. and i still love him, and he still loves me...like ALOT! he dont even love the other chick, i think he is only dating her for the conveinence but please help me, what do i do :( im 16 he 17

Answer 1

you guys arn't together so he didn't cheat on you

Answer 2

i'd give him another chance, and if he screws up again, then dump him. I think the only reason he spent time with the other chick is because he was bored because u 2 weren't together, he might of been lonely or something, so u guys should talk about the fighting that made u guys break up kinda, and get back together if u love each other

Answer 3

he's not worth your time. Dump him. I'm a guy so believe when I say he is a jerk and will try to manipulate your love.

Answer 4

crappy situation. but if you guys were not officaly together than you werent together even if you interpreted it that way. you guys werent together and he slept withher. he should have told you but he didnt. it was part of  your guys deal and he didnt stand up to it. did he cheat? no. but he was a jerkl by not telling you that he found someone.

Answer 5

okay, first of all, u seem to b stressing over this a lot more than the dude. and honestly, from wat i read, the guy seems like a jerk. officially, u guys werent going out, so he had the right to go ask another girl out and do wtvr the c**p he wanted with her. and u said that u guys were pretty close, and it seems like a really jerk kinda thing to do, to not even tell u abt how he had s*x w/her, and u had to hear it from some1 else. so he didnt really cheat on u. but for that a**hole to come back to u crying, is just a whole bunch of bullllll, because u really had a relationship personally, and he cheated on that. he is a real jerk and hes not worth ur time. seems to me like he just went out w/ that girl for s*x, which is not right at allll.  he totally betrayed u. if u love him, im really sorry abt wat he did, but do not believe him coming to u and saying he loves u, even if he truly does. he cheated on u once, wats gonna stop him from doing it again? hr already broke ur trust. and he just shows u that he cant b trusted when he says that he is willing to cheat on his real gf for u. i mean, i really want u 2 b with him, but thats not right either. it really shows u how he treats a relationship, and he cant b trusted.

so my advice is, forget abt him. trust me, another guy will come along the road and he will b the one who is meant 4 u, not this jerk. so dont think u made a mistake or something not getting back w/ him. he is not a good guy at all and def. not meant 4 u.  

Answer 6

It's like this if he truely loved you, he would of never done any of thi to you. he would of never been with this other girl and you two would of worked out since the beginning. Sure relationships have problems and none are ever perfect. But i would have to say this guy is using you just because4 he knows you will tak him back. How many times will you get played before you realize what he's doing is using you

Answer 7

get rid of him  

Answer 8

I'd be pisssseedd.

Answer 9

Leave him he doesn't truly love you. I know his type cause some of my friends are his type, most look just for s*x instead of a loving, long relationship. If he begs you to take him back leave him, he will only break your heart again, and again, and again. The true mistakes are the ones you don't learn from...