Help, dreaming about same guy ?

Question

okay, so i dated this guy about 4 or 5 months ago and i liked him a lot! anyways he ended up choosing another girl over me (without telling me) but the last few conversations we had (which were like 4 or 5 months ago) we kept argueing and fighting over the stupidist stuff and he cussed me out and told me to never talk to him again so i havent....anyways down to my point, well i used to dream about him right after these things happend (which i thought was normal because i still had feelings for him) and i used to dream about him pretty much every night well after awhile i stopped dreaming about him but now im dating another guy and ive had 2 dreams about him the last two days

heres how dream #1 went:

so we were out camping with his family (and his gf) and mine and something was after him and I, so we jumped in this car and i asked him if he knew how to drive stick and he said yeah so we drove away and went to his house and his dad, step mom and girlfriend was there, so his gf, him and I all were laying in his bed just talking when his gf was like "your guy's feet look exactly alike" and she kept saying all this stuff about things looking alike on our bodys and our hobbies (which was weird)

Dream #2 went like this:

so for somereason i wanted to see this guy so bad that i went to his house to talk about al the stuff that had happend the past few months and become friends again (because he hates me and never wants me in his life again) but anyways i get to his house and i ring the door bell and nobody answered so i checked to see if the door was unlocked and it was, so i went inside to see if anyone was home (dont ask me why because i would never do this in real life) so nobody was home and i just decided to sit and wait for them to get home, so they finally get home and i see his dad walk in first and he's all excited to see me because he likes me alot, but then i see ryan (the guy) and i run and hide in one of his staircases, well his dad comes up to me and is like why dont you go say hi to ryan (and ryan didnt tell his dad what happend toward the end about all the fights and stuff) so i told his dad about what had happend and he was like well let me go talk to ryan, and i was like nooooo, so he walks away and my phone goes off and i get a text from ryan and he's like "why dont you quit playing your games and come talk to me about whatever you wanna talk about so you can leave" (i didnt answer) so i go upstairs to his sisters room and told he what happend and she said she was going to go talk to ryan and i was like noooo (his dad and sister were trying to get him to go back out with me) so i think they kept trying to get him to come in his sisters room where i was but i dont really remember the last part of the dream

so why am i still haveing dreams about this guy? im dating someone else and i never think about him!

and i love who im dating right now

help please! thanks :]

Answer 1

Why should it bother you? You love the guy you're with now, right? He'd probably be jealous if you did this, but you could try reconciling with this Ryan guy- although I don't know what your fight was about. Was about him finding some other girl? If so, then he's a douchebag, and whatever quality about him you liked, he's clearly not grateful for it himself. That's the way it usually goes when you see something in them and they don't see it in themselves. It's really not actually there. You're still having dreams about him, because you can't give someone that much access to your soul without them leaving a bit of a remnant. Ignore it. As you grow, you'll find that in the mature soul there's room for sadness and happiness at the same time- like people who return from war after losing their friend, who can still be happy at their childrens' birthday parties. Your situation is not as serious as that, though, and I think the dreams will eventually stop.

Answer 2

I think it has to do with the way you two broke up, on such bad terms, and you are still trying to deal with that.  There may also be some fear of accidentally seeing him, because you are afraid of his actions toward you.