Help, my boyfriend?-mental illness?

Question

Help, i don't understand why my boyfriend is like this ):

Background:

Father: alcoholic, used to abuse him.---schizophrenic

NOW: Lives with brothers, sisters & mum.

Sister: is currently in hospital -mental illness.

Boyfriend (16) he:

Runs away from home for 2 hours if i don't tell him i love him.

If i dont say i love him he will cry.

Threatened to commit suicide once.

Says that he has no1 in life.

Thinks i am cheating on him, when i am obviously; most obviously not.

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any ideas?

please help? :(

Answer 1

The road you are going down will not get easier.  Things like this almost always progress in severity.  Because of the family background and the behavior you describe, I would say your bf needs professional help, a therapist at least, and possibly medication.  Best wishes to you, as young as you are, I would suggest you move on and find a bf without all these problems.  Sorry if that sounds harsh, it's just that starting out this way in your life is really difficult and emotionally taxing.

Answer 2

He needs counseling that is for sure. Maybe you could talk to a school counselor and get some help there.  

Answer 3

This probably isn't going to be what you want to hear, but it is quite likely that your boyfriend's problems are more than you can handle, and if you decide that you can't continue in the relationship, at any point, you should not feel guilty. Your boyfriend likely has serious problems with attachment and depression. Without professional help, he could have serious problems down the road. He is probably never going to believe anything you say, because the people he loved as a child lied to him and hurt him. He will continue to use emotional blackmail like running away and threatening to hurt himself. Do not ever be with him while he drinks or uses drugs or when he is in an angry or violent mood, as he is likely to be impulsive and have a hard time controlling his emotions once he lets them loose.

My suggestion for you is to find someone you can talk with, a counselor or therapist, who can help you deal with how his issues affect you and learn to set clear boundaries. Good luck.

Answer 4

He could definitely benefit from some counseling, before things get worse and he ends up like his sister.  16 is an age where a lot of problems from childhood start to show up.  Encourage him to get some counseling, it really can help him.  Good luck.  

Answer 5

dump him, think about this, why is he your boyfriend anyways?

Answer 6

he is paranoid and in mature, he is only 16, things get too intense sometimes at that age and he sounds like maybe a psychiatrist could help him, a good one, but for that he´d have to be willing to accept help.

he may still have a shot at happiness...unlike people like my self

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you have to understand that people who feel they´ve never been love and have no sense of self woth think that whenever some tells them they care or love them it feel like a lie , like its too good to be true, that it might be a trick or they are being made fun of. i know cause i am just like that.

I took antidepresants that my psychiatrist gave me , i was ok for some time yet my life keeps pllaying sick jokes on me

Answer 7

if you could be friends with his sisters or mom, so they can get him some help.

Schizophrenics sometimes see things that are not there, hence he says you are cheating.

you don't want to be with someone that does not trust you.

if you stay with him like that, then you'll be co-dependent

he needs to get help.

Answer 8

He needs to talk to a counselor. He has had a rough past and probably needs to sort through those things before he can move on with his life. That would probably be the least of his worries. If mental illnesses run in the family, then it could be some sort of disorder. It sounds like he might be fighting depression but I am not a doctor so I'm not sure. I would try to get him to talk to someone. Maybe go with him as moral support. It sounds like you love him very much and want to help him. Just love on him and be supportive through this time! Good luck!

Answer 9

Definitely depressed.  Chronic depression, of which threatening suicide is a sign of, is a treatable mental illness.  He needs to see a counselor or mental health professional.  And needs to open up to whoever he sees.  Actually, all these can be symptoms/signs of depression.  I'm bi-polar and taking meds that mostly has it under control.depression.

Answer 10

Ahhh where to begin. Well your situation is really sticky and needs deep thought into deciding if you should remain his girlfriend or not. Don't stop being his friend though,  as soon as you are able to get him to a therapist,  you should do so.

You should begin slowly in your attempt to get him to someone to speak with. Start by asking if he really wants to get better with his life. Tell him that you care deeply about his ability to get over the problems that he is having. only refer to a therapist if he seems likely to go. Bringing up talking with someone other than you could make him mad and or scared, unless you are tactful on your approach he may think you are trying to interrupt  his general way of thinking and may enrage him more.

Most of the overall issues you are dealing with him can be resolved, but it takes a professional and time , and a lot of understanding on your part. His past is a major part of his problems, it will only continue to manifest in to a bigger problem if he does not get the understanding that he does not have right now. That is the major part of his problem understanding his issues, and how to make them better for him self.

Answer 11

Could use some counseling to help get over his childhood problems.  He can't be confident in himself after living through this family and abuse.