Help, two best friends are dating...?

Question

For the past five years I have had two best friends, we are all girls, and four months ago they both came out to me that they were both g*y and started dating each other. I have known one of them for 17 years, and the other for 4 years and I love them both so much, but for some reason I can't seem to be happy for them, all I am is jealous and hurt about the whole thing, and Its not that I'm not okay with them being g*y, thats totally fine, its that they are with each other. Is this normal? Has this happened to anyone else, what should I do to feel better about the situation?

Answer 1

it almost sounds like you wanted to be in a relationship with one of them, and now you can't be.  either that, or you're jealous that you're not in a relationship at all, which we've all felt.  You need to get over whatever it is that's bothering you and be happy two of your friends found someone who makes the other happy

Answer 2

I think you are just feeling abandoned by them because you all have been friends for so long.  Just keep being friends with them like you were before.  Don't act any differently around either one of them.  They will appreciate your support.  If they happen to break up you will still need to there for the both of them.

Answer 3

It's normal to feel this way. Two of your best friends now share a really special and intimate bond that you can't be a part of, obviously you're going to feel left out and hurt. I don't think this has anything to do with your friends sexualities, that isn't your issue. Try to remember that although they are going to be spending more time together alone as a couple, they're still your friends and aren't just going to stop being your friends because they've got each other. Give them a little time to get used to their new relationship, this is something that every new couple needs, but remember that you're still all going to be hanging out together, and nothing that major has changed between you and these girls. Good luck with everything, I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

i feel your pain.  you're feeling like you just lost your best friends and are trying to get over them.  talk to them about how you feel.  maybe they don't how this is affecting you.  once you guys clear the air, then you can move forward and try to deal with it.