Help, with emotional status

Question

I need help with my inner self, the problem is that i am indecisive person when it comes to my parents, i wish i wasn't but i was wondering if anyone could help overcome such way by writing down tips the problem i think i am indecisive is because when it comes to my parents that are divorce they both get to me emotional ( manipulate) to their own connivance I mean once my parentheatre are now divorce were in theater and father wanted me to sit with him but mother had better view and since father bought the tickets he wanted to sit wany were but father wasnt sitting anywere near my mother but i really wanted to sit were had better view so father got to me saying i am ungrateful etc... and when i decided to sit with my father, mother started with her things also saying things to of me being ungrateful things like these make me confuse that messes with my mine. I wish you guys had any tips on how to deal with things like things and make my brain or emotunder pressure better fit to deal underpressure!

Answer 1

I have parents who tap into my emotional state to get what they want. I learned a long time ago that the only way I could not be a puppet was to be able to move past my emotional state. The way I found that worked for me was to get rid of the stress that being that emotional had on me. I found when I was calm and relaxed that I could ignore the emotional strings that my parents were trying to play. Here is an article with some great advice on how to relax. I hope it helps.

http://buzz.prevention.com/community/sin...

Answer 2

Don't think you've got the problem, you haven't. Your parents have a problem they shouldn't be playing with your emotions.

Answer 3

You have a choice of ignoring this manipulative garbage (you know whether or not you're ungrateful); or, being influenced in every direction and feeling resentful. I suggest that you start practicing the first choice.

Answer 4

Try to be more mature than either of your selfish parents by not taking sides.  Try to see it from their point of view - they are disappointed with each other and themselves and both want you to love and sympathise with THEM.  Be careful  - what if one of them died or something.  You don't want to spend the rest of your life feeling guilty that you sided with one against the other and then that person died.  That happened to me.  So be careful.  Try to be completely fair to both or you could end up carrying a burden of guilt that's not really your fault.  Try and show you love them both what ever happens.