Help???? ALWAYS scared....?

Question

ok, so basically my dad works in China alot, so hes there alot of the time.

Whenever I try calling him and he doesnt answer I always get really scared. I sometimes even cry, I dont know just all these thoughts run through my head. Can anyone give me advice, and please dont tell me to go see a shrink, cause my case isnt that bad.

Answer 1

you just need to know what hes on business..theres nothing bad going to happen to him...do you have any other relatives to talk to when you feel like that. You cant live your life always afraid, you cant control other people, I know you love him but your going to have to understand that you cant allow other people to determine your level of happiness.. Just tell yourself that , HEy, hes working, he will call when he can and in the mean time, keep yourself busy doing fun stuff....chill out! and and exercise, talk walks....that releases the good feeling hormones thru your body.

Answer 2

My dad worked in Saudi Arabia for a long time once. it is really tough. i was only in kindergarden at the time. i remember the pain of not having him around anymore, moving back to my moms house, and never talking to him except maybe once a month. this is getting me sad just talking about it hah.

i know how hard it is. but he's not answering because of the time difference more than likely. i remember waking up at 2 in the morning just so i could tlak to my dad. and i also remember the joy of seeing my kinder garden teacher open the door and see my dad walk in. i stopped EVERYTHING pushed my teacher out of the way and jumped into his arms. the happiest day of my little life.

im sorry you feel this way, but just know he's safe and is only doing this to provide you and your family with a better life.

Answer 3

We live in a scary time now a days. I hear teenagers discussing things that stress them that I never thought of as a teenager. I did live through the Cuba Missile Crisis ( back in the 60's) on cloudy days if I heard a jet I knew we were about to be bombed and I'd run home. We even had a bomb shelter in our house. But somehow I got through it without many emotional damage.

Do you have a family member or a school guidance counselor that you can just vent to? You know sometimes we just need to express our fears, but don't need anyone to "fix" us. By the way there is nothing wrong with crying. Have you explained to your dad that it scares you when you don't talk to him? Maybe you and him can text or set up a set time for him to call.

Answer 4

Honestly you have nothing to really worry about.  Now if your dad was in somewhere in the middle east like Iraq then yeah I can see why you have every reason to be afraid with all the violence and war over there.

But China's gotten a lot whole better since the Cold War days. The violence and political conflict in that country is very minimal.

Your dad's job is probably very busy and that is why he has difficulty answering your calls.  Leave him messages and let him know you've been calling and he is sure to get in touch with ya eventually.