Help! Am I crazy? What's wrong with me?

Question

When I get crushes on people it's all I think about. I'm not like a stalker or anything. But I just think about them and see their face in my mind. Whenever I do anything, I think What would they think? And like, I can't do anything that they would think is uncool so I can't really be myself. It's like I think just cos I am thinking about them, they know and they can see me. And I can't help it, but I want it to stop. What's wrong with me? Please help! Don't be mean.

Answer 1

I think it's pretty natural what's happening to you. I don't know if this is the best of advice but I believe you should always stick to logic and be realistic. You should know you'll be who you are no matter what. why feel compelled to compromise your true self for nothing. I mean isn't there always a good chance that whomever it is you have a crush on may not feel  the same way about you. And let's say you guys actually end up being in a relationship. How long would you be able to keep up the facade. Sooner or later it's going to crumble. So my advice to you is anyone who is worth your love or liking should be someone you can feel comfortable with being yourself.

Answer 2

its completely normal so dont worry about it and dont let it stop you doing what you want to.

Answer 3

IMO, very few people are fixed personalities :P And we look for traits in others that compliment us, or in some regards, guard us from threat. i.e, a weak willed person seeking a strong willed person to use as a shield.

From what I can figure out (I've had this myself, and I'm not sure what it is or why it's there - but i've always wanted to find out) it's some kind of mild 'delusion' based in an overactive imagination, a need for something you're not getting, plain old loneliness, or discontent with the person you really are.

When you say 'they can see me' do you mean, when you're walking down the street? In public? Or just in a certain place or situation, like, in your room for example?

I'd love to mull this over with you. For a long time, I thought I was the only one who did anything even *similar* :P  Feel free to email me if you fancy a chat about it!

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Answer 4

It sounds like you just have a strong a desire to be in a relationship.

As long as these thoughts aren't having a significant negative impact on your level of functioning then I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 5

This is perfectly normal! Everyone does it - they just don't like to tell anyone about it because they're afraid of being called a weirdo, stalker etc. If you have a crush on someone then they will take up all your thoughts so long as you don't let them know exactly what you are thinking you will be ok!!

Answer 6

You're fine.

Answer 7

This is perfectly normal, and refered to by psychologist Dorothy Tennov as "limerence". It is involuntary, charactorised by preoccupation, intrusive thoughts, being similar (but NOT the same) as an obsessive-compulsive mind state - different in degree and effect - and inherently temporary although typically longer than infatuation or a crush

And, you'll be happy to know, pretty common and not at all a disorder, or crazy. Many people will experience it once or twice, many quite often, some become quite addicted to it. You can look it up on wikipedia, although it really just describes the sensation  rather than gives reasons or causes for it.