Help Anyone ????????????

Question

My Dad Doesent Live With Me, Has A Wife And Kid Of His Own. Has No Connection To My Mum Now They Split Up (5 years ago)

I Live with my mum, but my dad still comes round trying to control us, is he allowed to tell me what to do ?

keep me from doing things? come in our house atall?

Im 17.

im thinking of a restraining order but dont know where to start.

Anyone help? :(

Answer 1

You may want to speak with your mom about it, if he is no longer living with you guys, and hasn't been, then there is no need to listen to him. He has no say in your life, tell him to bugger off

Answer 2

SORRY BUT YOUR DAD DOSE HAVE THE RITE TO TELL U HOW HE FEELS.N STOP U FROM DOING THINGS,,UNTIL U TURN 18,,THEN U R CONCIDERED AN ADULT,,SO TRY TO HANG  IN THERE U SAY HE DOESNT COME OVER VERY OFTEN SO JUST AGREE WITH HIM THEN WHEN HE LEAVES U N URE MOM DO WHAT U PLEASSE,,WHAT EVER HE DOESNT NO WILL NOT HURT HIM,,PEACE

Answer 3

no i don think that he should be able to tell you anytging because if he wanted to play father to you then he should have never left but i would talk to your mom first and let her know how you feel bout him being in the house and that  you dont like it maybe she can talk to a lawyer and get him to never come around  

Answer 4

just wait till you hit 18 ... he cant tell you nothing .. and he cant do nothing

Answer 5

The restraining order would be up to your mother. If he is coming in the house with out her permission (or someone that lives in the house), it is trespassing. Even if he lived there before.

On telling you what to do it depends on custody. If your mother has full custody than there are limits to what he can tell you to do. Now if he is trying to control your mother (mostly where it has nothing to do with you) than he has no rights there. But if he is being asked to pay for something over the regular child support, he has the right to say no. If it is something that your parents disagree upon, again it goes back to the custody agreement how that is worked out. In his house he can tell you what to do.

Answer 6

Your dad should not be doing that to you and your mom.  She is the adult and it's up to her to make it stop.  You probably would not be able to get a restraining order because you are not of age.  If he does continue to harrass you guys, I would call the police.  YOu have to tell your mom how much it bothers you because you are her only priority and she should get a restraining order to protect you and herself.  Good luck.

Answer 7

if he is coming univted then thats bad. and i dont think he has the right to do that anymore he left you guys so he shouldnt do that i would go with the restraining order.

Answer 8

Consult some lawyer

Answer 9

i would suggest thinking about it.  then when you've thought abnout it cogitate on it for a bit.  employ some procrastination, bottle up some rage and then give it about five or ten years and you will be sufficiently effed up to mess up your own kids.

Answer 10

Well it all depends.

Do you till love your dad.

And yes he is aloud to controll you since he is your dad.

But he cant come into your house without your moms premission.

Instead of a strainign or why don't you just get emancipated from just your dad.

I hope I helped.

Answer 11

if ur mum has full custady of u then no he could have charges put aginst him instintaly

Answer 12

You said "control us" . He cannot control your mother but he can still control you because you are still a minor. Just because he doesn't live in your house does not mean he can't raise you as his son anymore. When you get to the age where you are ready to move out on your own and become independent, then he can't control you anymore. A restraining order is a bit much. I don't know the specifics of your situation but if he is being abusive and coming into your home without your moms permission than go to the police. They will handle it from  there.

Answer 13

tell your mom and see what she thinks. She is the one with the control and can tell your dad to lay off or not. Plus its her house. My situation is the exact same but my dad knows better than to try and keep me from doin some. Im 17 too.