Help! Apology for hitting?

Question

Okay so i asked a question before about how my sister was hit and i got a lot of great answers. My dad usualy apologizes the day after when he smacks one of us. The last argument was pretty bad. He did not apologize the day after instead its been two days and my sister and my dad have nto said one word to eachother. I knwo my sister will not talk to him until he talks to her because she did nothing wrong. Do you guys think he is ahamed for hitting her and doesn't want to talk yet? What do you think about the situation?

Thank you! xxo

please no mean comments

Answer 1

He shouldnt hit you guys anyways but I think he may be ashamed and just is keeping quiet because of it, but maybe he needs help.

Answer 2

Yes i do think he is ashamed maybe so much he is justifying she deserved it in his own head. Hitting is never ok. If he leaves bruises call CPS.

I am sure he is big on the family loyalty thing abusers always are but you shouldn't have to put up with that.

What are you going to do when your sister marries a man who beats her?

Answer 3

It seems as though they are both stubborn, my Dad spanked us as kids but he never apologized for it because we were young and probably deserved it. Depending on how old your sister is- the cycle of abuse started here can be dangerous for both of them. If she truly did nothing wrong then I would suggest telling your sister to deal with it until she is old enough to leave. Meanwhile, your sister might want to talk to a professional on her own before this hitting continues into her relationships and on to any kids she might have. good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

Yea he is probably ashamed.  But that doesnt excuse it.  No man should hit a girl, women, child etc.  He would probably benefit from anger management classes.  I agree keep a journal and then go to the officials.  Record the time , date, what took place, what frame of mind he was in, (was he drinking etc)  Must not be no mom around.  Where is she?  arguments are one thing but hitting is another.  That is physical abuse.  Also keep track of what provoked the hitting or argument.  Tell her to not argue and to think before she speaks.  Not saying it is her fault at all but we only know one side.  

Answer 5

This can go on forever between your sister and your father. Tell your sister to make the first move, and if he hits her all the time, tell her to keep a record of it. She can call protective services if it gets bad.