Help!!! Best Friend Drama?!?! What to do?

Question

Ok. So my best friend is a g*y guy. He just came out in early June and hasn't told his parents or anything yet. Very few people know.

He is a funny person and lately his biggest 'joke' is calling me a L*****n. It's not funny to anyone, but no matter what we're doing, he always finds some way to call me a L*****n. It's really hurtful and at first I thought maybe he just felt alone and wanted me to be g*y like him so we could relate, so I let it slip. But it's gotten worse. Last week at my birthday party (where he was the only guy in attendance) he proclaimed to everyone that I had big news. When I said "what's this big news I have?" he says "That you're a L*****n, of course!" and the room went really silent and I was like "NO I'm not!" and then he winked at everyone and told them I just wasn't comfortable yet. The rest of the night all I could think to say to anyone is "You know I'm not g*y." and I think everybody knows I'm not, but it makes me so uncomfortable.

Yesterday he called me and was like "Guess what, I'm at so and so's house and we took a tally. Everyone thinks you're a L*****n." and I got upset and gave the phone to my mom. She told him to cut it out and that it wasn't funny.

He hasn't called me since, and I don't know what to do. I don't want our friendship to end, but I want him to know that he can't start rumors like that. When people call him a '***' and such I don't participate. I don't know why he would do this to me. School starts soon and I have too much on my plate. I can't deal with rumors!

What do I do?

Answer 1

you just need to be firm with him and be like... dude im not a L*****n and if you keep saying that i wont hang with you anymore!........... regardless of why he keeps doing this you need to be firm with telling him to stop. Explain that it hurts your feelings, and that while you have nothing against people who are g*y your just not and you dont want people to think that because its just not true and its a really horrible thing of him to do to spread rumors like that.

Answer 2

Guys are really immature. Just tell him that you want to still be best friends, but he needs to stop spreading rumors.  

Answer 3

I'd be calling him up and telling him exactly how he has made you feel, i'd also tell him to make sure people knew he was only kidding when he announced you were a "L*****n".

  He probably feels bad for what he has doen and doesn't want to face you just yet.  

Answer 4

guys, any sexuality, think that picking on people is generally funny.

it'll blow over, he just thinks it's like a really funny "insider joke" and thinks that you have thought it was funny too.

Answer 5

Ignore him. (Not forever! Just maybe a couple days to a week. Don't for too long.) He'll come around and apologize. And, it's been said before, they like making fun of people. Also said before, call him and make sure they knew he was kidding.

Answer 6

omg he soo mean!! you should ignore him untill he apologizes  

Answer 7

A friend is someone who benefits your life by being in it, I don't think he's doing that now; he's projecting his self loathing on to you.

He sounds like a toxic person, you need, for your own good, to cut him out of your life.

You can't control what he says about you, but you can absolutely control how much you care and react; just treat any rumours that may come up, as a joke, and explain to anyone who matters to you, that he's reacting badly to being out.

Once you drop him, he'll probably try to creep back into your life, you'll need to be at your strongest then, and keep him out.

Take care.