Help! Body Image Problems!?

Question

hi, i am 13 years old about to turn 14 ina few weeks. i am so depressed about my body image. I cry almost every day. I am 5"1.. i feel too tall. I weigh 90 lbs.. i feel fat. I am a 32-34A bra... i feel like my chest is too big. My face is too fat my thighs are to blubbery. I am so sad, crying as i type this. Also, I dont want to grow up physically.. like get a figure have a chest get my period (i havent gotten my period yet) WHenever i try to talk to anyone in my family they jsut laugh and tell me im ridiculous. I have no one to turn to. I want to be happy but im not. Please PLlease help me and give me advice.. please no answers like "stop feeling sorry for yourself" etc because i feel awful enough.

Answer 1

Awwwwwww sweetie dont b sad about that.90 lbs. is not fat believe me! Im as tall as you and i weigh 135.You have to feel comfortable with yourself and love yourself 4 who you are.Im not gunna tell u not 2 feel sorry 4 urself, cuz i know that wen ppl say that 2 u it doesnt help, it makes things worse =[.Dont worry, if you havent gotten your period yet then that means that one day youll be curvier.You're 13 years old, u shouldnt be worrying about stuff like that.I wish i was your weight!U know wat u can try, Try looking at your body in the mirror and examining every detail of it.Tell yourself how no1 in the world has a body like urs, its unique.Get fixed up wen ur just laying around the house so you can feel better about urself! I really hope i helped, and if u wanna talk 2 sum1 u can email me =]

Answer 2

You are ridiculous. Youre 13. 90 pounds? A doctor would most likely say that's way too little for you too weigh. And if you're a 34A you're not big in your chest. Just stop crying. It's not worth it.

Answer 3

90 pounds is not fat by any means, 5'1" is not tall AT ALL, and in no way is an A cup big.  You are a normal girl and don't be afraid of growing up because it only gets better.

I am 5'10", weigh 150 pounds, and wear a 36C bra.  And I'm 15.  I got my period and all that and it's absolutely nothing to worry about.

If you feel that terrible, you need to tell a trusted adult that will listen to you, so that you can get help.  Obviously it isn't healthy to cry every day over something like that.  I strongly suggest seeing a therapist, it will do wonders for your confidence.

Try focusing on your good qualities until then.  It's not all about appearance.

Best of wishes, darling!

Answer 4

aoww

its ok don't cry.

i hate my image too. mine is just the opposite.....

love who you are because there are girls who wish they were you. if you want to look liek you have a smaller bust,wear looser shirts. 90 lbs is NOT fat at all. you are you and NO ONE will ever be exactly like you. [:

if you still are'nt satisfied, try running or swimming, those will clear your mind and tone your "blubbery thighs"[which they're NOT![:]

have fun!

xoxo[no homo]

sam  

Answer 5

There is nothing an outside source can do to fix your problem.  You are not too tall, not too fat, and your chest is not too big.  You are a normal 13/14 year old.

All your problems are internal.  You need to get over it on your own.  There is nothing anyone can tell you to fix that.