Help! Crushing on straight friend?

Question

Ok so I've known my best friend for over two years now and lately I have developed a huge crush on her. We're both 16 year old girls and we go to the same school so we see each other everyday and have the same group of friends. We have a pretend sort of "relationship" thing and we are super close, like she'll tell me things that she wont tell anyone else. She's really the first person I've ever been able to see myself actually dating.

The only thing is she is straight. She has a boyfriend, but she is breaking up with him because it was just too awkward between them. As far as I know, she doesn't know that I'm bi because I haven't told her, but I keep dropping hints about it. I want to come out to my friends eventually anyways; hopefully sometime this year.

What should I do? I really like her and sometimes think she could like me too, but I'm terrified of ruining our friendship. Should I tell her I'm bi first or just try to get over her? and for each one what would be a good way of doing that?

Sorry I know this is really long, but I wanted to put every detail I could think of in. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I would first gather her thoughts on g*y/lesbians/bisexuals, and drop hints to see if she was ever "curios"... things like that.  

I think that girls are more willing to experiment, and considering she just broke up with a BOY, this reinforces the possibilities.  

If she has no prejudices against bi's, I would then only tell her (and only her) that your bi-sexual, and see how she takes it.  

If she takes it rather well, and she previously said that she was always "curios", you can then tell her that you like her more then just a friend.  

Just make sure you do this in a way that will not stalen your friendship.  If she is definitely straight, don't bother.  

You know your friend best.  Just remember to take things gradually, and not forcefully.  

Best of luck! =)