Help! Her personality intrigued me and I can't stop thinking of her?

Question

OK so I kind of had a *girl crush* on my old manager. She was authoritive yet very cool, calm, and laid back, and someone you can joke around with. I just felt very drawn to her personality. I think she was an ISTJ personality type (which my bro is but he is boring) but I could be wrong. She is introverted yet she was a general manager (for 8 years) which I think is remarkable. I am pretty sure she is a thinker type as well. Sometimes I would just stare at her and smile and she would smile back without saying a word. She would ask how I was as I came in and then just a couple minutes later ask it again. She had this contagious wink that she would do with people. She called me rebequitha for kicks (spanish diminutive form of endearment for my name rebecca) and she would thank me every time I clocked out.

Anyway she was fired about a couple months ago and I missed her so much. I just found out the other day that it was because she used someone's ssn for a bunch of her friends and stole money that way and then she lied to the police. What would compel her to do that!?!?!?! She seemed so humble and trustworthy!! I am disgusted by that but I still can't stop thinking about her and it is so annoying!!! Please help me!?!? How can I get her out of my head and why do I feel this way!?

Answer 1

This kind of person can be very charming; someone who almost immediately causes you to let down your guard.They do little things like smile and wink and thank you for the smallest of things that other managers, for example would not. Problem with this is that it is phony. You get so blown over by this, what seems to be great person, that you do not really see what you are looking at. You are looking at a deceptive heartless person who does not mind taking someone to h**l and back by stealing their identity/ money etc.  I believe that this is an evil person. You perhaps had no way of knowing this, but it is a good lesson. Do not judge a book by it's cover.

It is not such a mystery why you would miss her. She made you feel good about your self and about coming to work. You would never have been drawn in like that from the beginning if you'd known what she was really all about.

No offense but with friends like that you don't need enemies. Please talk to someone closer to her age and get an objective opinion. I do not think she would be an honest friend to anybody. You want more for yourself don't you?

Answer 2

Go talk to her or something!  Maybe the more you talk to her you'll realize she wasnt what you thought, then she wont be in your head anymore

Answer 3

maybe you try contacting her so you guys can be friends

Answer 4

All that glitters is not gold.  She has the charisma to con.  OR is it possible that this story about her is not true?    Maybe you should call her.  

Answer 5

She sounds like a cool person.

Is she in jail?

I don't think you should get her out of your head by force.

Why don't you contact her?

Maybe you could ask one of her friends.

My answer is not so good. But I hope I helped.:]