Help! How can I stop this? Has anyone been through this as well? (read on...)?

Question

I am too forgiving.. so many men have left me and then come back when they are lonely and single again (I dont give them s*x ; they come back just for companionship & attention when theyre lonely) I am too forgiving.. also b/c i never wanted them to go in the first place...and by that time ive forgotten what the pain of them leaving me feels like. I need to write down exactly what im feeling when they treat me like this and read it back to myself when they try to come back I think. Has anyone else ever been through this? what worked for you?

How can I explain to some of these men that I may consider a friendship but not a relationship after what they did?

Answer 1

oh ya i used to be like that you cant let people walk all over you and take advantage of you!!!! SO STOP!!!! if guys are tempting to you dont talk to them. i know its easier said then done but do it! dont answer your cell phone dont go hang out with them.  tell them what YOU want and make sure you get it!!!!! dont let a guy walk all over you !!!!!!!!!!!!!! you need to know what you want in life and GO GET IT!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

You're pathetic. You know your problem is "being too forgiving" and yet you can't stop. Either you're really stupid or this is really just your strategy to get men to like you.

Answer 3

you have to have strength in will. if you truly don't want to take your relationship farther then why should you. If both of you don't share the same kind of love then you are doomed to fail as a couple anyways

Answer 4

dont get attatched!! just tell these JERKS straight up....like im not interested in a relationship or anykind....or dont even get involved in the first place!! not getting involved is the best medicine for u....or is it something or some kind of aura that ur sending these men that they think of u as a play toy? just dont call them back if they call u or text you and in my opinion....these men arent good to make as friends either.....they seem like jerks!! and the same thing will happen over and over again...if you date them and stuff...then there gonna leave you and its gonna go around in a cycle.....best advice...i know this may sound mean....but these guys arent even worth it to think about as friends either....so just erase their numbers from ur cell so u wont get attatched and if you think of calling them then you can't..