Help! How do I deal with the green-eyed monster?

Question

Hey all,

I have an awesome friend who I just love to bits but lately I can't help but feel like everything great seems to be happening to her. We're both young, but unlike her, I have to work two jobs (and still never seem to have enough money), don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in ages, and am going through some really dodgy times with my family. I'm basically on my own. On the other hand, she's got a really supportive family who are funding her education, is loved by pretty much every guy out there, and her dad just bought her a brand new car. I know its horrible and petty of me, but I can't help but feel incredibly jealous. I've just never had things handed to me, and I wish I could! I would love to have a family that cared that much, were supportive of my education and bought me gorgeous cars! It would be great to be adored by guys, but its just not happening. I dunno, what do I do? HELP!

Answer 1

Feel ya there ! Its called life and reality ! Not every one is spoon feed ! Just keep on fighting and pushing and you will learn that all good things will come to you in time !  

Answer 2

This isn't a zoology question.

However, you should keep in mind that people who aren't responsible for their own achievements (people who have everything given to them) often end up with low self-esteem.  Personal achievement is the largest builder of self-esteem (and character, some would say).

Answer 3

Be her awesome friend, and celebrate her good fortune as a true friend would.  There's no cheese down the jealousy hole, so don't even go there.  Besides, by being her close friend, don't you actually benefit as a direct result of her good fortune?  Don't you get to ride in that shiny new car?

You're having to make your own way by your own sweat and she's got a rich father, but fortunes come and go.  Who do you think will be better off down the road, the girl who had everything handed to her, or the girl who had to make her own way in the world?  In spite of your hardship, and partly because of it, you're far more likely to lead a rich, rewarding and productive life just because you are learning disciplines that she isn't.

Jealousy only hurts when you are afraid you won't get yours, so trust me, you will get yours, and you won't have to dance to your daddy's tune to do so.  

If you want to be adored by guys, do things that make you adorable, like find one of them adorable.  The only thing you have to do to be attractive to any guy is to take a real interest in the him, even if it's only a clinical interest.  Remember that there's only one way that any of us want to be loved: we want to be found perfect just the way we are.  You are of adequate beauty, that's not the problem.

Either you're perfect or God is incompetent, so you have a right to be treated as a perfect being by anyone who wishes to get close to you.  In order to keep being treated as the perfect incarnation of a loving God, which is what you really want and deserve, you must master the discipline of picking love over revenge every single time.  Only thus can you sustain such a relationship, but on the other hand, that's about all you have to do.