Help!?!? How to approach my brother?

Question

So...I have a brother I do not know at all. And I'm not sure if he knows that I am his sister either...

He recognizes the rest of my family, my mom and my brothers (I have different father than my brothers, my mom and his and my father were together when he was really little) and he works at the local supermarket. The thing is, I knew nothing about him until a few hours ago when my maternal brother told me who he was! My mom never mentions things about my father to me, but I'm really curious. So I've made up my mind the next time I go to the store to look for him and speak to him, but I don't exactly know what I should say????

Should I try and seek him out or let it go? I mean, we've gone this long without knowing each other....if nothing else I'd just like to have one conversation with him, someone help, PLEASE?!?!

(Will give best answer to the best advice)

Answer 1

wow!

sounds like a nerve racking yet exciting experience!! :D

i have 3 bits of advice, which you could use differently depending on the circumstances

1. as it is a very personal thing, work may not be the best place to announce it to him, and you might get tongue tied and lose what you had planned to say. so, try writing him a letter explaining the situation and that you would be grateful to meet up somewhere to meet him, or whatever you feel should be said. then that way you can read itover and over to see if its what sounds right. then leave the note at his work, with the manager or soemthing, with his name on it. leave your adress on the back  or phone number so he can ring/text/write you a message back with his answer

2. secondly, you could go for the direct approach of telling him at his work, but liek i said, that coudl be stressfull on him and you. if you do, approach him at his counter and say "hi there_____, look this may sound odd, but i think you know my mum, and brothers" and after he says osmething "im your sister. i know this could be a shock, but id really like to get to know you better, f we could meet up sometime thatd be great"

3. thirdly, definately dont let it go!!!! DO NOT. you will regret it. i can tel deep down you really want to, and i say go for it! also, using my suggestions up there, if theyr enot fitting for the circumstances, use a combination of my suggestions

the best of luck!!!

hope it all works out for th better =]

Answer 2

It would be benefited for you and your brother to get know each other. It is an excellent idea for you to seek him out. If you worry about on how to approach him, just ask him where is a certain item and request for him to show you. On the way there introduce yourself and the connection with your parent. Explain you felt a need to let him know that he has a sister, and you hope to see him in the future.

At this point he would have some questions to ask you. Therefore, talk to him and get to know him. You will do fine. Good luck and God bless

Answer 3

strike up a conversation, tell him he looks familiar and ask if you two could possibly be related. Tell him who your dad is and hat he looks like someone from his side of the family.

Answer 4

I would go up to him while he was working. Try to exchange phone numbers with him or tell him you have a mutual acquaitnace and you would like to speak with him. Just so he knows you're not a complete stranger. You deserve to know your brother and your brother deserves to have a chance to know you! If no relationship progresses after  who knows, but at least you tried.

Answer 5

Something along the lines of 'My mom says we might be related; maybe we could find some time to talk'