Help! I'm 13! And im pregnant!?

Question

Ok, so let me tell you the story...

i met a guy called Dave, and he was amazing, after a month we had s*x. We have been many times since, and the other day i realised i was pregnant! (ive taken the test)

I told him, and he said if i keep it, he'll leave me. He's the one.

What do i do?

Answer 1

I hate to break it to you honey, but if he would throw an ultimatum like that, then he cannot possibly be the one.

No-one can tell you what to do, it's your decision. However, I would suggest that having a baby now would be worse for you in the long run.

Also, a small point to realise is that if you decided to go ahead, have the baby and keep it, you would be reduced to a statistic, and have a very low social opinion from others. I only mention this because at 13 social standing is still being determined, and you'd feel it more acutely.

I've been through it (although not at quite the stimgma associated with being 13) and know how hard it can be. However, the fact my partner and I chose to try for a baby, and are still together nigh on 6 years later has made things so much easier.

Think long and hard before making your choice. It's NOT a matter of maturity, it's a matter of quality of life, for you and the baby.

Answer 2

Well..You must be out of your mind to be having s*x this young instead play with dolls!!!!

BTW how can you think he is the one? You have so much more to experince which I don't mean s*x... Its really up to you what to do about the baby, but you should talk to somebody that you really trust and not one of your 13 year old friends.

I hope this is not true otherwise Good Luck, you need it.

Answer 3

DO NOT GIVE UP THE BABY, you will definitely need help from your parents to raise it up. Your only 13 and there will be other Dave's in your life and if he leaves you now he's a loser.

(P.S. if the baby is a boy call it George or Leia if it's a girl).  

Answer 4

seriously i dont know how 2 help but i will try.i am 17 and have got 4 girls pregnant since i woz 14.aniway they all had abortions.so if u keep it he dumps u.if u get rid he stays im guessing.i think dat since he gave u da ultimatum he ent worth bein wid.let me ask u summat.wuld u ratha hav a baby hu is ur kid 4 eva or a boyfriend.imagine u get rid of da baby and he dumps u a week lata.u hav a big desicion on ur handds.wat ur famili fink.even if u get rid of ur baby an stay wid him.how do u no he giv u a ultimatum bout summat else.soz 2 tell u dis but he ent worth bein wid.

where u liv by da way.

Answer 5

You we're 14 in another post you made.

If this is for real, tell your parents.. and don't make desisions based on some guy that you've only known for awhile, and someone who you have been having s*x with for only a month.  

Answer 6

I bet this jerk is older than you. Your a typical girl you are!! Firstly your young!!! Theres better things you can do than have s*x!!! The other thing is if he says hes gonna leave you even if you do keep the baby hes not worth it at all. I think you should dump him. The other thing is your pregnant why didn't you take contraception don't they teach you about that at school??? You should have either used a condom or taken the morning after pill. You can either have an abortion or keep the baby its really up to you. Choose wisely. =]

Answer 7

Grow up!  You and he have to learn that actions have consequences.  Deal with it.  Both of you.  He may be "the one" for you, but his reaction clearly shows that you are not "the one" in his eyes.  By the way, how are you, at 13, going to raise the child?  It is not your parents' responsibility.  How old is Dave?  Have a paternity test ordered so he can pay support.  Or you could choose to abort.  You are proof that you are too young to be having s*x.

Answer 8

DO NOT GET AN ABORTION

TELL YOUR PARENTS

You made the mistake of having s*x, you're only 13!! WHy should your baby have to get a death sentance for your mistake!! Adoption is a way better alternative!! Your baby has a heartbeat-it is alive! It's not your baby's fault you went around having s*x at 13!! It's a natural result of your actions.

You had s*x, you are going to have to suffer the consequences. I realize that you're 13, you can't raise a child...adoption is the responsible alternative. You shouldn't be having s*x in the first place.

This is really sad, I'm like crying now for your poor baby who you're probably going to end up killing because you were so irresponsible and the fact that someone would have s*x that young.

Abortion is really brutal for a baby. They are either burned to death, brains are sucked out, it's truly horrible and barbaric. It sickens me to think about. All so people can go around having s*x and not take any responsibility whatsoever.

If someone makes a mistake, there are other alternatives without killing a human being.

Answer 9

hes aint the one. he would never be the one. your just a gullible lady who fell for a wasteman.

you should do what you want but i know he wont stand by your side becuase he is a chav  

Answer 10

please give the baby up for adoption unless you have close family who is willing to help take care of it! Don't get an abortion!

Right now you should be concerned about your baby and your health...and the life you are going to give your baby.

If this guy was truly the one he would support any decision you make. You are very young and I'm sure right now you feel like he is your everything but one day you will look back on this and probably not even care about him anymore...You need to go to the doctor to confirm that you really are pregnant and then talk to a close family member...

Don't make your decision based on being with a guy..

I'm sorry for your situation and I hope things work out for you..

But to be honest, even if you don't keep the baby he might not stick around. Be true to yourself. Good luck!

Answer 11

Lillie, if this is a wind up, it's too late in the evening to think of anything appropriate to tell you how annoying it is.

If it's not a wind up, you need to get a grip, tell your parents, and then for goodness sake give the baby up for adoption. You're 13, and you think you've found "the one" cos you shagged a few times? Give me strength.

Answer 12

hey firstly.. it is very rare for u to meet someone at 13 who is 'the one' boys at that age are very immature and v scared for commitment...

if he cared about u enough and actually wanted to be with you, then he would stay with you and bring the baby up properly and accept his responsibilities! Do you not see that??? I beg you dont get an abortion but give it up for abortion instead or see if u can go through some sort of surrogacy for people that cant have kids... Tell ur parents, and for gods sake leave this loser... he is not worth ur time, ur only 13 n u will meet more 'perfect guys' in future only to realise that until ur about 25 no man is 'the one'!

You dont need this 'Dave' bloke as he is not prepared to take on his fatherly duties and help you raise this baby... ring him now and say im gonna keep the baby and when he says 'i cant be with you anymore then' just say.. ok thats fine, leave i dont need u!!

Ur silly for gettin pregnant this young... do u not know how babies are made? Surely u've had s*x ed by now? Use a Condom babe and get on the pill... unless u wanna be landed with 2 or 3 kids by the time ur 16!!

and lastly.. get some sense! Did u not know that if u have unprotected s*x, u will most likely end up pregnant.. my advice to u.. any future bed partners u have.. tell them -  no condom... no s*x!

Also go see ur local GUM clinic.. u could have any number of STI's from this guy!

Answer 13

You are only 13 and you are having a child? I think you should have the child and not wait around for that other guy, Dave. He will only leave you when you need him the most. He just wants to use you.  

Answer 14

please do not have an abortion,just think there is a baby in side ur tummy that u have made the baby has a heart beat don't kill this baby cuz of him if anything give it up for an adoption if you don't want it.but please think wot u are doing before you make the move.

ur 13 u shouldnt even be having s*x at your age!!!!!

u are lucky to be come pregnant as some people who are old enough to have children and who deserve to have children have trouble ttc (trying to conceive) but people like you don't deserve to have children!! u cant even make up a decision to keep the baby or not u make me sick.....

ALL I CAN SAY IS THINK BE FOR YOU TAKE ACTION BUT DO NOT KILL YOUR BABY I SEE IT AS YOU WILL BE A MURDERER!!!

Answer 15

my little sis is 13 and if she got pregnant at that age i woudn't know what to call her. its digusting.

your meant to in the process of learning about s*x NOT doing it!

and as for 'he is the one' GROW UP

Answer 16

better hope your parnets have the money for an abortion.it's the ONLY RESPONSIBLE thing to do.

if THEY wanted another kid then THEY would have had one. you know your parents are going to be the ones caring for this baby.  You're just a CHILD. you CAN"T raise a baby.

..and of course he said he wouldn't stay with you.he's actually a smarter kid than you.

Answer 17

so he's not the one if he wants you to give up his child. how old is this guy?

What do you do....

Tell your parents and let them decicde, for one your really young to do this on your own, even with "the one" on your side.

Answer 18

3 weeks ago you were 14 and had never had a boyfriend.

http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind...

Answer 19

DAVE??

WHO'S DAVE??

HAVE YOU BEEN CHEATING ON ME!!!!?

ah man! i knew it was too good to be true.

as for the baby...keep it! it might be like a mini-lillie (you were a cute baby!!)

x

Answer 20

if this is a wind up it's sick coz there are pple actually in this position and i know from experience its not funny (i was 16 not 13 mind).

Tell your mam now, dump "the one" coz he's a waste of space and your best shot of him, don't abort the baby and seriously consider the consequences of adoption because you will never get over the baby if u give it away or abort it.

Answer 21

First of all how old is this Dave guy? Second of all, you are to young to be having s*x and 3rd, where are your parents and do they know yet? I bet Dave is 18 or over and your parents don't know. You don't have a lot of choices here and I don't believe in sleeping around and running to get an Abortion, but this baby want have a chance in h**l with a 13 year old mother and a father that didn't want him to begin with. Since your so smart and want to be treated like a woman figure it out little girl.

Answer 22

First of all you must tell someone you can trust parents,teacher,older friend.You must also remember that this is completely your decision but you do have your whole life ahead of you. If you cant talk to your parents yet you can contact your G.P despite your age it is still completely confidential

Answer 23

Tell your parents.  You need them now to help guide you in what is the right decision.  You're going to hate to hear this, but at 13, you haven't explored all your options and if he's 'the one', then this situation won't matter.  I suggest you sit down with him and your parents and/or a student counselor to explore all your options.  13 is too young to make this decision alone.  

Answer 24

Dave will be going to prison so forget about him, he is not going to be the one, no matter how you feel. Don't bother telling him about the pregnancy he will find out soon enough.

Learn as much as you can about having a healthy pregnancy. Your body may not be ready for a baby, so you may have a miscarriage.

Answer 25

I thin if you are old enough to have s*x  then you are old enough to sleep in the bed you created ,

keep ur legs closed .

Answer 26

He is NOT the one. I guarantee you that. You are 13 years old, all that matters now is your child. I suggest you tell your mum so that she can help you with organising doctors appointments because you need special care when you are pregnant.

Answer 27

whatever

Answer 28

Start by telling you parents. There are many tests and steps you need to take in order to insure your baby stays healthy. Its important you see a doctor. If you think your parents will be upset, it doesnt matter, you still need to make sure your baby is ok, and will be born with no complications. SPEAK WITH YOUR PARENTS.  

Answer 29

your only 13 how do you know hes the one?

your just a school girl. i felt the same way about a lad at that age but he turned out to be a wierdo!! after 8months of being together.

Anyway..... if hes goin to leave u then fine, nothin u can do about it but u shouldnt get an abortion. u mite be thinkin that ur guna be on ur own without him there but u wont be. u'll have all ur family supportin u.

Have u told ur parents? .. well if not then u should do. sooner the better

good luck

Answer 30

If he leaves you, he's not amazing.

It's more your baby right now rather than his.

You follow your heart, if you want this baby keep it.

Everything will ok if you keep it, there are many organizations that will help you so much.

And if you think that no guy will want to date you because you are pregnant or have a baby, you're wrong.

Plenty of guy will care about you and this baby, don't worry everything will work out for the best.

Just please don't kill your baby.

Answer 31

Dont you have some homework or studying to do? Seriously hun, grow up and get off Y/A or at least off the pregnancy section.