Help I'm 17 and still a virgin!

Question

Hi, I'm a good looking guy, I attract girls all the time, beautiful girls, I just manage to mess it up every single time. I tend to be insecure and shy when I'm with a girl, even though she obviously likes me. I would never make the first move I just can't! well only if i'd be very drunk. I'm always afraid to be rejected, these weird fears keep going trough my head when I'm with a girl even if she makes obvious hints or even tells me she likes me or wants me! Maybe I have too much respect for girls and don't want them to think that I'm the type of guy who tries to get in their pants all the time, I just don't want to hurt them or get hurt myself and look stupid! I've had so many opportunities to lose my virginity but every time I reject the girl or don't manage to make the first move cuz I'm a wuss. I'm about to turn 18 in a month or two and I'm getting pretty desperate. It's all in my head and has nothing to do with my looks or anything. I've lost a few girls which I really liked to this and it keeps bothering me please help! and I'm definitely not g*y by the way!

Answer 1

Don't be so desperate to lose it. When you're in a relationship and/or  comfortable with someone, you're not going to have to worry about feeling stupid or messing up, because you know that person isn't going to care. The right time hasn't hit, just give it time.

Answer 2

What is going on with people these days, its good to be a virgin when you are 17, your really supposed to lose it in your 20's after your married.

Answer 3

there are tons of virgins out there, just make sure you're not one when you turn 40

Answer 4

start treating girls like oars,disrespect them and only look after number 1 YOU

Answer 5

OMG, SO WHAT!

Your 17, that's like a year over the LEGAL age limit in England and one year UNDER the legal age limit in the U.S

If you blow your first time on some w***e, then your gonna regret it, you have to do it with a girl you really care about.  

Answer 6

Hmmm.. I didnt loose mine till I was 18 almost 19 dont worry about it.. when the time is right and when you find that girl.. its gunna be perfect.. just dont rush it.. than its gunna be worthless

Answer 7

having respect for girls is good but not too much

always feel yourself normal with girls and don't feel shy

and also being a virgin is not a bad thing so instead of thinking of breaking the virginity think of improving your attractions and how you talk to girls

Answer 8

hey i think its cool that your 17 and still a virgin i was going out with a guy who is 17 and has slept with like 4 girls (not sure) but when i was going out with him he just went out with me to get in my pants (and im not ready for that yet) so just think about it before you do something you think you might regreat later in life ( like pregnancy, or a desise od some sort) hope this helps

Answer 9

Keep your heads up dear. Time and day will come.

Answer 10

Well, I never saw the need for guys to be like, constantly having s*x with people. As far as I'm concerned, as a girl, I think it's kind of sweet that you respect girls too much to want to hurt them. Besides, it's a useful bit of information for when you do meet the right girl. ;) (oh, trust me, have you ever read twilight? try it. I mean, seriously. Everything you need to know.)

Don't get too bothered with it.  

Answer 11

ok, you have to stop thinking about having s*x, its not that important, have s*x after marriage trust me, its not that big of a deal (even though it seems to be when ur 17... (im also 17 and im a guy) so dont worry about it.

Answer 12

u need to be in a relationship. period. if u were comfortable with theese girls u wudnt have a problem, ur scard their gonna go away sayin ur c**p.

a nice gf wudnt do dat

Answer 13

That fine you should wait until you get married any way. Otherwise u will have a soul tie, which usually causes a break up any way.

Answer 14

so whats the problem if you are 17 but you are still virgin gosh.is there anything problem if you are still virgin.and you say that keeps you bothering.look thsre arew lots of things that you can do instead of thinking if you are still virgin or not.

Answer 15

Relax! Go slow! culculated your steps as you move on!  There is time for everything. All these things you've mentioned, ther will come the right time and you'll find yourself doing them with no haste.  I would like to compliment you for your good morals at this are. don't rush to engage in activitieis which you would otherwise be remourseful about in future.  Once again go Slow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 16

even tho you may think that bad it actually something good! not that your to shy..cuz you gotta get over that but dont rush into it! when u and the girl are ready you'll know! dont think your a late bloomer! you got that goods! make em wait 4 it!

Answer 17

Don't look at your virginity as a bad thing all the time. Are you getting with these girls just to lose your virginity or have a good relationship with them?

Answer 18

firstly, it does not matter that your a virgin!

and secondly, having respect for girls is fantastic & some guys need to take a leaf out fo your book!

You can still have all the respect for women if you treat them well.

You sound like a great guy & you dont wanna ruin everything you have going for you.

so keep your genuine quality but just stress less when you like the girls and their ready for things.

Theres no rush

You;ll know when your ready

:D

goodluck!

Answer 19

Oh my god. I have never met a guy with respect for girls before, I think its great that you have respect for girls and in the long run it will make girls like you more.

Don't worry about being a virgin, I know people who lost their virginity when they were 14 and others only lost theirs when they were in their 20's.

I'm about your age and I'm still a virgin and I don't care what people think of me =) I'll do it when I'm ready and if who ever i'm seeing at the time dosn't understand that then its their loss.

Answer 20

Don't sweat it man, you're gonna attract the right girl one day because of it.