Help...I'm so disturbed.

Question

I was in a relationship with a man whom I thought as the love of my love for 5 years. I got pregnant right before we separated. I told him that I am carrying his child but he accused me of bringing up a scam. I didn't open up the topic anymore since I know I can take care of my baby on my own. I often see him even after we have broken up. He approached me one time and touched my belly. He told me to take care of his kid and would help me out if I need anything for the baby. I was ok and quite happy with it.

He left for abroad and would just send email or SMS. I found out that I will be having twins but I had some complications that I lost one of my baby. My X found out that I had a miscarriage. He just called me and told me how sorry he was. He doesn't know that I had twins and I'm still carrying my daughter.

The other day I saw my X's sister. We didn't say hi/hello but her eyes were glued to belly. Now, I got a message from my X's gf telling me that I'm a liar. And I'm just so good in making up stories to get him back, and to even pretend that I am pregnant.

My question is....how can I go about this? I tried to cut out any communication way me and my X could have so we can settle our own separate lives. I'm not expecting that the gf will now be my worry.

Its easy to say to get along with my life, ignore them, don't pay attention...however its very difficult. Being pregnant too is making me more paranoid. And please be nice.

What should I do? How can I make myself calm and not worry about this?

Answer 1

I think you should tell your X the truth about you having twins and losing one of them. I know you shouldn't worry what his girlfriend says but you can't blame her, as thats how it would have come accross to anybody tbh. Just tell them what happened just to settle things and hope it will be ok. Good luck with your other baby :) X

Answer 2

i'm so sorry for you =(. try to focus on your job or school or whatever you do. go to your best friends and talk about this. i'm sorry to say but the best thing to do is to forget them. thats why he's your x, you have to x them out of your life. try to go dating again or if not, focus on your baby. the most important thing right now is your kid. best of luck.

maggie

Answer 3

honestly, I would just leave it be. Unless the new gf threatens you or your little girl in some way, there's no reason to drag it out - especially if you don't want him in your life anymore. Move on and focus on your daughter, not petty people of the past.

Answer 4

Im so sorryyyyyyyyyy

Huni!!! anytime you need to speak to someone E mail me and I will then give you my number too!! I have 2 kids and its hard going through anything especially while you are prego! s***w him! I would e mail him and tell him you had twins and lost one! and that you don t want his girlfriend ever contacting you again or you will get her for harrassment!!!!!

and honestly if I were you I would stick him with shild support!!! who the f***cking h**l does he t hink he is !!!!!!!???????????

he wants to act like a big jerk off then stick him with a bill!!!!!!!

he has to pay for whats his!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

its hard and expenssive to raise a kid even with help!!!!!!!!!

or if you dont want anything to do! s***w him and dont give a c**p move on!!!!!! but I would make him PAY and make his little girlfriend DIE with him! she should have never had the d**n right to say ZIltch to you!!! who does she think she is ????????

or does he think he is!!!!!! Dont ever let that fool touch you! and wlak by hi, or his family anywhere they see you like they are not even there!

ALL of them sound stupid! UGH! what a LOSER! makes me want to kick HIS A** for you and his chicks A**!

you know what e mail me!!! :))))

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Spoiledarabchick @ aol.com  

Answer 5

Write a letter to him and explain it just as you did here.  He deserves to know that there is still a child.  You have to decide how much you want to be involved in each others lives, for the sake of the child.  Sounds like you live in a fairly small town, so contact is likely. Besides, you might need his support at some point, or your daughter will want to know who her father is.  You need to keep this relationship as friendly as possible.  Explain that you were trying to leave him alone and give him and out, but that perhaps that's not the right way to go about this.  Assure him you don't want him back, you just want what is right for the baby.  Send this letter to HIM, and ignore the current gf (she sounds jealous and possessive).

Always think of your baby first.  She is the most important thing in your life, and always will be.  But take care of you, too, that's the only way you can care for her.

Answer 6

i would personally go to the cops and ask them to get her to stop ringing you then just get on with ur life.