Help! I'm so homesick! how do I overcome this?

Question

This past month I moved to another city to live with my boyfriend. I was staying a week or 2 at a time, going back and forth home getting all my stuff. I have been visiting on and off for months now and did experience some homesickness...but I always knew I was going to go home so I was okay.

I live now about an hour away from my mom. It doesn't seem long, but my mom does not have a car so it's nearly impossible for her to come visit.

Today she did make the trip down with her friends car to bring the rest of my stuff. She was only here about an hour then she had to go.

I just feel like all of this is so final.Everything I own is here practically and seeing my mother today I think made things worse. I know I can go visit, but the bus ticket isn't cheap so I can't make a habit of it.

Maybe it's just me, but I can't stand the thought of only seeing my mom a few days here and there for the rest of my life. I'm almost 20 and I know I need to grow up, but up until this point I've been almost attached at the hip with my mom.

I'm crying none stop, depressed and just so unhappy. How do I get over this?

Answer 1

Well first of all I think it is great that you are moving in with your man, and feel so close to your mom. But as time goes on you'll learn to have your mom in your life without having to always be with her. So I think that is your challenge so it's not that you are immature, and that you need to grow up but that you have a very strong bond with your mom, and you are having a hard time letting her go. But it's okay the task is to keep your mom in your life without being so attached to her. Anyways may you continue to keep a strong bond with your mom as you get on with your life, and enjoy early adulthood.

Answer 2

Well, if a ticket is too expensive maybe you should look into a webcam. Phone calls a few times a week can help, and don't forget about email. Let her still be part of your life. At the same time, you need to show yourself how great life can be without your mom. Go out for a date with your boyfriend, hang with friends, do what you like to do, and be free.

The feelings you're feeling will pass, and your mom can still be with you even though there are miles between you. Cheer up.